What should I do with my 10 year old son?

Find a good counselor for him, you, and the rest of the family. Too many people send their kids to doctors kind of like, "Ok, it's your job to fix him." But normally it is an underlying issue with the family unit that needs to be addressed.

Any reasonable health insurance will help cover this.

I don't believe in ADHD. I think that any child that has more energy than normal and a low attention span (normally because he/she is bored) is labeled with the ADHD brand because they don't fit into the standard "Education Factory".

These children are drugged until they are brought down to "normal" levels. Ritalin is a depressant in children, but it is a stimulant in adults... Hmmm an age determined drug. Does anyone else see anything wrong with that?

Honestly I think (and I'm not a psychologist) that your son is bored and not being challenged. And because he is bored he continues to do things to liven up his world. He's making things a little less boring.

Sounds like Andrew has an anger management problem and needs some professional help to deal with it. If he has been having problems since Kindergarten, that should tell you that this problem is not going away and he needs help dealing with it because it will only get worse over time. Children will often live what they learn at home and if one or both parents deal with their anger with violence or shouting, or any other unhealthy ways, the child will do the same. I know this is not what you want to hear, and I'm not judging you as a parent because we're all just trying to do the best we can, but examine how you deal with your anger. Is he learning anything from that? My son was diagnosed with ADHD in 3rd grade, and raising him was difficult. The meds helped, but it didn't solve emotional problems he had, and I didn't use it as a crutch or excuse. He's now 19, he's doing better, but still has some problems that he's learning how to deal with on his own. Good luck and think about getting your son some help. You'll be amazed at how much it will help.

there is an obvious reason why he is fighting all the time,i dont know anything about your personal life but i do believe things begin in the home.If this is of great concern for you which i know it is,i would get him in some counciling and see if he will open up to someone being the oldest too he could feel like he isnt as important or is 2nd do you understand what im trying to say since as the oldest child he was the first to get all the attention now it has changed because he has other siblings and the attention is going else where he is rebelling or he could have a chemical imbalance of some kind im not a professional but do what you have to do at a young age because it doesnt get better most of the time the older he gets and i know you feel lost i was so fortunate my kids were great and still are they are in there 20s now and both successful in life that is what we want for them and i know you love him i wish you the best of luck my dear

I would love to help you, but I do not know what you have tried up to this point. What type of discipline do you use for Andrew? There are many reasons why a child "acts up"...including seeking attention. For a short answer without knowing particulars, I would suggest working with the school to find a smaller class with more individual attention and counseling with a GOOD counselor/psychologist. Children will seek attention in many ways...if being "good" doesn't result in the attention they want, then they will be "bad". Either way, they GET attention! Your son is crying out for help. I strongly suggest that you find out what kind of help he needs. Generally speaking, the school counselor or principal is a good resource for finding help.

Find a good family counselor and stay involved. You should also be in contact with the school and his teachers for more insight on what is triggering his behavior.

Your son is also coming to the age when he will shift from preferring his mother to his father. Both parents need to be involved and united in his life.

ok, merely after analyzing the different replies, please save in mind which you cant merely call the college and demand they look after your son from a bully on a weekend bike-experience. i think of you have finished the surprising element as much as now by means of confronting the mothers and fathers and removing your son from the aptitude to be bullied (by means of having his pals come over). in case you come back for the time of this actual infant back and the mummy nevertheless facilitates her son like its no huge deal, then i could call the government and seek advice from them approximately probably pressing costs in the experience that your son is bodily harmed. If it is going on on a thank you to and from college, certainly, call the college and enable them to comprehend what's going on. They do carry some accountability on your infant to get residing house properly, yet there relatively isnt lots they could do off college grounds. they are going to be prepared that should assist you, nonetheless.

Well, sure first find a councelor for your son! But then whats more important is to find out and eralize why is he doing things like that!

Sure this is a serious issue you have there babes!

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get professional help if you could. he could be suffering from ADD or perhaps the school environ isn't suitable for him. talk to him and ask if he feels troubled at school. if he's been bullied or any negative behaviour. get to the source of the problem.

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