should i go on?

Wow, I'm sorry you're going through this. Your details seem a little bit unclear, but from what I understand, your husband runs his own painting business and lives in another house out of town and comes to visit? Have you ever had the feeling that he's had somone else? It sounds like you're already separated, I would suggest you just start living your own life but "stay" with him so that your kids are provided for. Go out and meet somebody, or better yet give him a surprise visit to his other house to see what you find. I'm sorry for you but I think he's got someone else in that house.

i'd try to find out why he's resistant to live with you and the kids. it sounds like he's financially responsible, just unwilling to "settle down."

you didn't mention whether or not you were employed. if you're not, i'd definately think twice about leaving him. being a single mom is NOT an easy job.

maybe you should try to talk things out first. he needs to realize that you have needs, and he also should wake up and learn that raising children involves more than just paying bills. explain to him that kids need a father figure just as much as they need a mother, and that he's missing out on some of the most exciting things about having children.

who knows ? maybe this will be a wake-up call for him and he'll come around.

if it dosen't work out, you'll still have the option of leaving and finding another partner, one who's more responsive to your needs.

good luck !!

Did your wedding vows include the phrase "... til death do us part?"

Assuming your husband is not abusive, you should sit him down and explain that you do not feel like a family with him living outside of the home. He needs to either live with you where you are, or move his entire family in with him where he works.

Also paying for bills and buying food is not taking good care of you and your children. He needs to be there spending time with both you and your children, and not look to alienate himself from the family.

If he is not actively participating in this family by being physically present, then he is being selfish by treating you and your kids like a rent-a-family that he can leave when he gets bored.

Hire a private detective. He's up to something. Maybe another life, another wife. Dont people need painting done in your area???Something verrrry fishy about this, verrry fishy indeed...

thats not a marriage. You should live together, share a life toghter, and raise your kids together. Why be alone when your married weird

Leave him. He is cheating on you or else he would want you to be there with him.

Move on....