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How do you teach someone to be humble?
There is a guy that believes he's always right and if you don't agree with him he'll take his issue to upper management. The sad thing is that you are in charge and he works with you.
I need to change this behavior or he might get let go.
11 Answers
- 1 decade agoFavorite Answer
There is a vary complex answer to that.. because the motivations for going over the heads of everyone is simply an A type personaility.
To orchestrait the humbling of someone will always backfire.. you need to simply inform this person the this behaviour and its effects.. because if you dont.. there will be a great deal of animosity.
A psychological phenomina of being humble is simply realising ones impact on others. and you foster that by greater and better communication.
- HouyhnhnmLv 61 decade ago
His problem is probably low self-esteem and insecurity. It's an issue of being too humble, so to compensate he has to prove he's right. So you have a talk, tell him how valued he is. He says that no one appreciated him before, so he was always defending himself, that's how he learned to survive in a family that neglected him. But now, he says, he can concentrate on proving himself through his work rather than proving he's right all the time. He chokes up, manfully fights back tears...
Oh wait, this turned into a movie, and usually life doesn't follow a movie script. These sorts of problems can take years of therapy to sort out. I doubt you're qualified as a therapist, so you're inviting ulcers and heartbreak if you take on the task of fixing him. You can try to boost his ego, and you can warn him about the damage he's doing and where it might lead, but taking this on as a project is kind of like an accountant taking over a major problem in the IT dept.--it's not likely to accomplish the objectives.
Source(s): I thought I could reform an employee once, wound up firing her. - 1 decade ago
Let him know that he is not in charge.Also let him know that upper management has discussed with you his attitude and that they were not pleased with it.let him know how the chain of command works and that if his attitude does not change his employment with the company will be questionable in the immediate future.
- 1 decade ago
Accept him first that he is right. And then arise question to him where he made mistake in the situation and then slowly correct him. if he still argues then let him go.
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- FedericoLv 41 decade ago
You might be able to. Proving him wrong might make him humble. It's like teaching someone to be kind, it'll be hard.
- 1 decade ago
what i feel is we cannt change anybody but ourselves.If u feel u are wrong then correct yourself.Else Ignore him totally and keep doing your work with full efficiency and u will be able to overcome his phobia.
- 1 decade ago
if he wants to be that way then let him go, it is only going to make your job easier and better! Look after yourself - cos no-one else is going to!
- 1 decade ago
You must start when they are young, otherwise they must find their own way or answer to a higher master.