For the Mature Male that can HELP ME?

I am a retired police officer who went to school and made a career change. I work in the IT field as well. Having patrolled the streets as a cop and worked in a busy call center environment (computer help desk) I can assure you your husband is suffering from stress. Have him see a doctor, a urologist perhaps, because stress becomes a problem when it inhibits physical function. No doubt your husband wants to make love to you, but he is either too tired, or physically unable to. If he eats well, gets plenty of rest, and has a healthy release for his stress, this can improve things. I've found that exercises, merely walking on my treadmill at home for 45 minutes a day keeps me going. I put on the TV, or spread the newspaper out in front of me on the control panel, or blast some music. This helps me relax. If you two have a treadmill, or an exercises bike, or something he can use for exercises, that will help. But still, just to be safe, he should see his doctor for a checkup. Doctors are great. Good luck, and have fun.

Hello sweettoni, it sounds like his job is very stressful and he may not be always ready for sex. One possibility would be to give him a breif massage before the two of you start doing anything. Just have him lay on your bed while you slowly rub him all over. You know where to finish rubbing him and once you do, he may be relaxed and ready to have some fun with you without going limp.

Good luck

I don't think there is any correlation between computers and "going limp". This sounds like early signs of E.D. or erectile dysfunction. Tell your husband to make an appointment with a urologist to find a way to make momma happy!

I'm not a male, but I am married to one.....so...I just thought I would offer my thoughts....if you are sure that he's being faithful, then it could just be fatigue....especially if he is working long hours. Not neccessarily anything to do with the type of work he does, other than the fact that it is mentally tiring...any type of work can cause this if there are long hours involved....then again, not to scare you, but it could be a serious medical condition, he may need to go to the dr. right away.

it might be his diet . i was a computer tech, for a long time and most tech don't eat right .. if he drinks lots of caffeine and junk food then yes that will coughs the problems i had it for a short period of time and when i changed my diet i went back to normal if he is a older man the he might need to use some med to help get the blood flowing. good luck

Sounds like he has ED erectile dysfunctiion there is help for this and it is common for men over 35. Hey it happens . It can be cured with meds. search it out on the net

Everyone here has good information. Have him try Maca root. It is supposed to be a great aphrodisiac. If you have a GNC close to you, there is a product called Maca Man.

okay, this is probably going to sound really stupid but does he drink a lot of carbonated beverages while he works?

carbonated beverage overdosing takes the fizz out of the little mister. seriously. been there with mine. doctor advised him to give it up, he did and things started working again.

after a year he went back to drinking the fizzy stuff and things went back to mr. no show.

It maybe a form of ED "erectile disfuction" --tell him to go to the doctor and ask for Lavitra, cialis or viagra.

This may help.

IT guys suffer from fatigue... they are very tired after work... i read somewhere for people who cannot do it at night... they should rest at night and try the mornings... when they are fresh... i know many people for who this is true.