Why is marriage so disposable nowadays?

Maybe they just don't know how to love, I mean you can feel it with every part of your heart and soul but don't know what to do once it's there, some people where never shown the right way to love and respect a marriage. You can see it in others and try to mimic what they do but love is not a standard thing it's as unique as the person that feels it and sometimes their actions don't always reflect what's really there, no matter how hard they try.

I agree with you... marriage should be forever. When I got engaged, I told him that he had better make sure that this is what he wanted for life because I do *not* believe in divorce. And it's not even a religious reasoning, I have seen the crap that goes on with divorce and I don't want to go through that.

Marriage CAN work if you apply yourselves the right way. It has to be 50/50. You give some, and you take some. I think the problem now a days is that people just give up too easily. They have a little minor problem and they throw in the towel and they're done. I'll be honest, my husband and I have had some pretty good arguments every now and then, but we both know that when things get heated up, we need to walk away for however long it takes to calm down, come back, and talk rationally. And you have to have an open mind with considering the other person's feelings, and that has to be both ways. I think if society in general would apply themselves more to working out problems if they TRULY love each other, divorce rates would lower.

In the old days a man got everything including children and women didnt leave their husbands for any old reason. Now days women get it all and men wont leave for any old reason. Divorce is easier to get than marriage is. If the law would start making divorce harder and costly to both men and women, you would see a whole lot less divorce. Such as considering divorce as a breach of contract and allow the other to sue on those grounds. And punish an adulterous partner and allow the cuckold member of the marriage to sue both the adulterous spouse and the lover.

Make the divorcing couple take a counciling class for 6 months before allowing a divorce etc....As for children of a divorce, children have become a cash award for the custody parent. Equal time share with no cash support would end that gravy train.

You probabbly won't like my answer.One of the main reasons is that women have more rights than they did in the past. Before the 1970's divorce was quite uncommon, and women were expected to stay with husbands who commit adultrey, were abusive, neglectful, etc. In addition, divorce is no longer socially shameful. Personally, I think that although divorce (as well as marriage) can be rushed into, I think people should feel free to divorce when they are unhappy. We have the freedom to leave a job, or end a friendship etc. when we are unhappy.

People have changed their values that most does not see marriage as a sacred bond between a man and woman, unlike before. And since it is easy to get divorce nowadays, people see marriage like a relationship that you can let go if fed up and unable to get along with one another.

People have become too lazy and egotistical. They want everything handed to them on a silver platter. Somewhere along the way many people have lost site of true work and relationship eithics. It is much easier for them to just get rid of what isn't working, replacing it with the next hottest thing, instead of working on what they already have.

Also, divorce used to be taboo, greatly frowned upon. It has now become standard. You can even purchase do-it-yourself divorce kits over the internet.

....resi6--->> that is a stupid ignorant statement regarding child support and that there is a cash reward for the custodial parent...

...i believe marriage is a covenant relationship that is meant to last til death separation... people want everything to be always nicey nicey but nothing is that way in life... people have differences and if everything was always nicey nicey that would mean there is stiffling going on and their is no growth in the relationship...

I now do believe that it is just wishful thinking... to be married today, one has to really really want to be married in order for it to work, because it is work, and most people just are not interested in working on relationships... everyone wants that early thrill feeling, that honeymoon "i'm in love" feeling... once that goes, most marriages today fail... but, the next one has a higher stat of failing than the first one... so, why divorce for those reasons?? if you arent willing to work on the first one, why would you the second time around....

by using fact instances have replaced. Divorce is now perfect, it extremely is a lifestyle for some. Years in the past, a spouse had no rights if she grow to be with an abusive guy. i recognize, I watched by using fact the police got here into my mothers homestead after my dad beat the hell out of her and that they only advised my father to maintain the noise down that the pals have been complaining. NOW, the guy might bypass to penal complex no count what. desire it could have been that way for my mom. Plus she had 6 toddlers, a 6th grade practise by using fact of quitting college to artwork in the cotton fields to assist help the kin. those days are over. Now women persons are knowledgeable, they are in a position to make it on their very very own in the event that they ought to. i think the morals of right this moment have lengthy previous in the trash. i do no longer believe staying with somebody if she or he's abusive, and so on. and so on. yet I do sense that now days couples are speedy to shout DIVORCE until now they provide theory to attempting to artwork throughout the matters. Marriage is artwork, a brilliant style of artwork and the conventional public do no longer understand this until as quickly as they have married. it extremely is a brilliant style of provide and take and compromise. until you recognize you're able to try this, you should never marry. Use to be years in the past, in case you stated, i'm divorced, human beings regarded down on you, right this moment......... it extremely is the norm. Very unhappy.

It's not you just have to find someone who believes the same way, one of the lady I teach karate to husband cheated on her so she sit down with him and talked it out and it hurt but he want to be with her and her a-lone, I talked with them both and they are much better now than before it happen, people will always do something to make you mad or hurt you both have to get over it and really Love each other any way for the good, the bad and you know, don't give in just look hard.

Because people don't value marriage the same these days.