Would you follow your dreams or your spouse?

It wasn't necessarily my dreams or my man~but I did have to choose to move with my man~ up and quit my two year job~my family and everything around me that I knew~well let's just say~I quit my job, left my family, and moved to a new state~where I knew no one, my daughter new no one~and I had no job security~our relationship was two years living and moving state a way from everything I had ever known~we kept moving because of his job~we couldn't get comfortable any where, or even have time to make friends~now that our relationship has ended, I have a seven year old daughter to take care of~no job and no home~while I was with him, I went back to college, and stayed home to take care of our (suppose) to be family~while he worked his *** off and had no time for anything else~So as for your problem~follow the dreams~cause you never know when your relationship goes from good to bad~it happens so quick that you have no time to prepare yourself for unexpected packing and leaving~at least with your dreams~you will be able to take care of your self~and children if need be~cause I depended on a man and got no where!!!!! Now it is time for me to start depending on my self~

Dreams dreams dreams. Many many times you have only one chance in life to realize your dreams . . . tough choice.

My assumption is that your dream is truly unique, perhaps you've been given a gift that requires you to spend huge quantities of time training or rehearsing or whatever and thus must put all else to the side while you pursue what you've loved for as long as you can remember. If this is the case, you MUST pursue your dreams. You and the person you love will be heartbroken but forever you will silently thank your love as your dreams are realized. Always know that your love will always be silently cheering you on from the sidelines.

If you ever can dedicate one of your awards or otherwise acknowledge to your love in the upcoming years on an open stage that s/he was the one who selflessly allowed you to pursue your dreams, you should do that as well.

Wow, good luck with whatever decision you ultimately go with and be content with your decision as well . . .

You should never have to sacrifice one for the other! A loving spouse would support and encourage you to follow your dreams...unless your dream is to be a hooker, then a spouse would probably not be happy with that! hehe! Seriously though, my husband has always supported my dreams and has encouraged me to reach for the stars. I am a better person when I'm with him.

Without knowing more details from you, I really can't say why your spouse would not be supportive of you to attain your dreams.

Well, if your dream does not include your spouse, it seems to me that if you had the dream first, you wouldn't have chosen your spouse.

So, since you chose your spouse, first, you can give up the dream, delay the dream, or together with your spouse, forge a NEW dream.

That, is the right thing to do.

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I think you have too much time on your hands and need a hobby. When you have a spouse, you should be putting that persons welfare before your own and visa versa. Learn not to be so self-centered. We all have dreams that never come true in this life time. Maybe next time around they will. We are "happy" because we choose to be happy, not because of the person we are with. You need a major lesson in giving and selflessness. God Bless.

as the saying goes"u cannot served 2 masters in one time".thats why u must only follow which do u think for u is the best and make u happy in the rest of ur life without regerets at the end.

Shouldn't you have dreams in common? If you don't i dont know how you got married. If you believe heaven is what's most important, then both of your dreams would be secondary. The dreams in common should be the priority.

It is easier to get a job than a spouse.

well u need to figure out what will make u happy...u got married .didnt u guys talk about your dreams first.now u are commited to eachother.maybe he can do what his dream is first then when hes accompliched then it be your turn.Do u love your husband?