Should I try to "compete"?

Some b itches think that everything is a freakin' competition...it is ridiculously sad ...whats even worse is even if you were to confront her on this petty child's game that she is playing ...she would just deny it and try to make you seem like you are imagining the whole scenario.....faze her out of your personal life .....don't go anywhere with her ....don't talk to her about ANYTHING ...personal or otherwise ...and do not continue to play this silly game with her .....let her compete with herself. Some women still have alot of growing up to do ...unfortunately....and she sounds like one of them. Too bad for her ...now it is costing her ...YOU !!!

Don't bother trying to compete. If it's p**sing you off, the best way to get back at her is to ignore it, or to reacat in an 'oh, I wasn't aware..' kinda way. The less you react, the more infuriated she'll become. Let her work herself up into a tizzy about trivial things.

Another tactic you could try is to compliment her every time she tries to compete - for example "oh, you wrapped those presents beautifuly" or "oh, i much prefer the colour of your honda, I wish we'd got it like that". But try to say it with a *hint* of insincerity. Preferably do it infront of the mother-in-law, cause that way you come out looking ever-so-nice, and she just seems like a b*tch. Also this way you could subtly drop in that yes, if hers is better it's cause she learned from your experience?

Failing that...rat poison?

Is she doing it purposely? Cause if she is then just try to not mind her. act like you dont give a damn what she does. She might just be jealous of your relationship. if shes not doing it purposely, she might just want to be close with you. Like since youre both getting married to brothers around the same time its like youre moving forward together. it might not be that shes trying to compete but you 2 are in the same positions and situations. the present wrapping and cake is about equal. Know what I mean

It is best just to ignore her. My sister-in-law's husband is also that way. I have been married a long time. Many years ago, it made me a little mad at him. I just ignore that behavior. I do give him credit though. He does not act that way any longer. I think he learned that he did not have to do that. It might also have come with his profession. He is a lawyer. They are always competing.

Its hard,but be the better person and choose to ignore her.When she smarts off like that just say.Wow thats great,you did a good job.Eventually she will see its not bothering you anymore and should at least back up a little.If this doesnt work,try to befriend her.If you work on projects together then everyone will be happy.Good luck God bless:O)

She sounds so irritating, making it impossible to have a normal fun relationship with your in laws! Shes only competing like that because she feels inferior and doesnt realize that you arent feeling like her susperior like she may think you are. Dont encourage her lol. Maybe you could ask your fiancee to mention something to his brother about the way shes making you feel or maybe he could say that hes noticing it for himself! good luck

She probably has nothing better to do. And she probably just jealous of you! When people are jealous, they start competing with the person they are jealous of, to try and prove that they are better than them. My advice to you is, no dont compete. If you do this will never stop and possibly get worse in the future, e.g. wedding! if you ignore her, hopefully she will realise that there is no competition anymore and therefore get bored and move on to something else!!

Just be your self and don't compete. I don't think she is doing this as a personal attack on you, she has a problem. Just don't do it back.

don't try to impress... just do things the way you normally would, and let her stress about getting things better... she sounds pathetic and childish... don't compete, just ignore...