I dont understand!!!!!!?

Your boyfriend and his brother have a long history together. Family dynamics can be a complicated thing. There could be many reasons for the behavior your boyfriend is exhibiting. Is the brother older? If so, it may be that your boyfriend has always looked up to him and has desired a close brotherly bond with him. Or, it may be that the brother has always been the "boss" or was perhaps a bully when they were growing up and your boyfriend does not know how to stand up for himself when it comes to dealing with his brother. There is a lot we don't know that may help answer the question. How old are all of you, is the brother staying with you a long-term plan, how long have you and your boyfriend been together, who's name is on the lease or who owns the home you live in? If it is a short-term arrangement for the brother to be with you, it may just be easier to let the two of them work out their brotherly relationship and when he leaves you can both work on getting back to the life you had. If it is your home or your name is on the apartment lease, you can give the brother a time line for him to find his own place. Perhaps your boyfriend is embarrassed to be intimate with you when his brother is around. Perhaps the person your boyfriend is when he is with you is completely different than the person he is when he is with his family. Give your boyfriend a little space, don't ask him to do "unmanly" things when the brother is around (such as "come sit with me and let's talk"). Sometimes we women get a little obsessed with the "let's talk" thing (I know I do and it drives my husband crazy and we've been married for 29 years!). Relationships can go through some rocky times and often one person has to give in and make sacrifices. This may be your time to step back and do without what you want for a little while. I would say if the brother stays around much more than another month, your relationship could be headed for some rocky times and your boyfriend will have to make some tough choices. It may be difficult to think about, but you may not be the one he chooses.

Instead of talking to your boyfriend, try talking to the brother and tell him that although you respect the relationship he has with his brother, that you would like a little alone time once in awhile. Chances are, he'll understand. If he doesn't, fix up the brother with a girlfriend and he'll spend so much time with her that you boyfriend and you will be back to normal. And if that fails, find something else to do in the meantime. Guys have needs and eventually he'll be wanting something sooner or later.

There is no way to say this without sounding harsh, so forgive me for that, but it sounds like your boyfriend has grown tired of you. The fact that he wants to spend time with his brother is not he issue. You have more serious concerns in terms of your relationship. You say he doesn't want to spend time with you, doesn't want to talk about what is bothering you and doesn't want to have sex with you. He just doesn't sound happy in the relationship. I can't say whether he will come around and start treating you better, but you need to ask yourself how much of this you are going to put up with before you dump him.

You have to get some "alone" time with your mate. Let him also have "his" time with his brother. If it continues that he doesn't have time for you, start maiking yourself "unavailable". Start going with your friends and doing things, without him. After awhile he will start missing you, then you can explain that you were/are feeling the same way, that is why you had to go to your friends, just like he went to his brother. Maybe that can help you some.

Always remember, you can not make anyone do something THEY don't want to do....

Sounds like he is embarassed to do "couple" things with his brother around. It's a machismo problem, which shows SERIOUS signs that he isn't ready for the kind of committment you think you have. He's not ready for a relationship if he constantly ditches you for his brother. I'd consider getting a place of your own...

damn he gone 3 weeks wth out i dont want to ocnfuse you but i think he out clubin with his brother, getin some on the side naw mean he probably cheating and he knows your not going to do anything , if its been a long time since he has seen his brother maybe he is just catching up i have a very special bond with my brother and i cant imagine life without him but i still think he is cheating 3 weeks is a long time

He is definitely being selfish. You must be very frustrated, I feel for you. If I were you, I'd flat out lay down the law with you're boyfriend. Either he starts paying more attention to you, or else it's over. And if he doesn't respond, move on with you're life.

well i guess you need to go to the brother and ask him to plz let his brother and you have some time together , if that doesn't work then just grab your boyfriend 1 of these days and seduce him into sex lol

Don't you just hate that about guys they ignore us when they have a brother or a buddy around. Just bring it up to his attention again until he gets it.

Give him some more time and then u go out for a vacation alone.

Then he will come ur way