I'm going to see my ex for first time in 9 months next weekend at a soccer tournament, my son.... t

Do not be a fool. Looks and size does not matter when it comes to love. It is obvious he likes being with this new woman, let it alone. Go to the game and enjoy your son playing and be respectful and a lady. Do not act ugly with her or him. You can kill a person with kindness. If he has gone a making a life for himself, you need to the same. Get in tune with you. Learn yourself. You will be surprised how much you will learn. You may learn and realize your ex was not for you after all. I tell you this from personal experience. I was in love with this man and he broke my heart. I wanted to go inside my chest and sooth the pain. Time past and I got to me for the first time. I saw my ex a couple of years ago and I wondered why I wasted my time. I had truly out grown him in many ways. When you start dating, do not compare the new guy with the old. Two different people. What I also learned no man is perfect in every way but he can be compatible for you. I hope this helps.

well hon, seems to me that your "friends" aren't really your friends! to be telling you things that they think you want to hear and to make you feel good is not helping you. you need to realise that everything happens for a reason and if he can move on so quickly then pick sense from that and stop getting your hopes up. beauty is in the eye of the beholder and maybe he might be seeing something in her that you don't have and insulting someone and behaving like a two year old does make you look good, get a grip, you don't need to be with someone to have "moved on" you are not defined by the person you are with. anyhow all the best.

You've been put "through the mill," and now you're questioning feelings? A) u r now limiting your potential/future mates; 2) He's already said, "no way, no how," to marriage again.

C) why waste your time pining for this guy when a new "interesting and vibrant flame" could be just around corner. Heeemmm?

OOH, I know this is going to be hard. Just be yourself! You know your the better person here. Just get pretty, be yourself & have a good time at your son's game. The best defense is your own happiness. You can do this & maybe you'll see that your not missing that much!

Girl, use it to your advantage!!!! Just keep thinking how bad he feels and that he is goin home to that skank every night when he knows darn well what he lost. That should make your confidence go through the roof! Give the other guy a shot. You will soon get over him.

its soooooo easy,be YOURSELF,men love women who are confident and act normal,dont ignore him yet dont be too nice,be your self,if its meant to be it will be and nothing will change that,who knows maybe he will miss you and realize his loss,give it time and just have fun and meet others.

Just act like you dont notice him and pretend like you've got someone.

Be strong and look fabulous!!