Why won't he marry me?

I think God will answer your prayers with his will.

he feels guilty he cut off his family unit and he is scared it is a BIG thing to go thru after all those yrs so he has his kids so he doesn't need to remarry as u 2 live together. why buy cow when u can milk it let him get to have closure give him a yr to get over it least 8 months u have him .. u won so.. um he gave up his life for U and he is the bad guy now to his wife and kids look at it from their point of view.. give him time don't push hes in a sensitive state and its so final the ending of a long relationship its like death .. rule number one in love and sex married people off limits as they may not get divorced but whats that say if u got with him he um.. stepped out and do u want that to happen to u ? no -so.. look at the situation here.. ur both newly separated don't rush it sometimes affairs aren't meant for life.. its just what it was affair..meet his kids in time.. be quiet for now don't push it.. take the time u have with him to heal from ur own loss of a marriage both of u . u need to think what went wrong in urs and he in his what really happened and why so it wont happen to U 2..

one thing stands out in your question...when you say "he left their mother for me". Actually he didn't. If he did he would have married you. Sounds to me like he was either bored with his wife or that either he or she were going to some midlife type crisis, so he went out looking for another woman. But if he's not marrying again he might be feeling that he raised his children already and marriage means children and he doesn't want more. Of course maybe he has bills to pay, maybe he hasn't brought his baggage with him (hasn't told you everything about what happened in his marriage). Maybe he has to save for retirement. Do you work? Are there two incomes? Does he feel secure in the new relationship? Or, maybe it's too soon as he has to grieve the loss before he can move on.

First of all you mention 'we both believe in God and want to do our best to do his will and abide by his law??" uh honey, you were living together out of wedlock to a married man and you broke a man's home. Sure he had problems, but once you knew he was married, you should have stayed away.

Second of all, I don't the man is at all interested in you because he hasn't introduced you to his kids and he still hasn't proposed.

The right thing to do??? I think you know the answer to that but you are choosing to believe what you want to believe rather than do the right thing.

Maybe he just isn't ready for marriage yet. He may not be sure he wants to commit to spending the rest of his life with you.

But you should ask him for the reason yourself. You have to ask him what the situation is. Tell him that you would like to get married but are bothered by his passive behavior. You have to make him understand that you have a problem with the current situation so that you can work together with him on the future. That way you will know better where you stand.

You have to be brave and ask him yourself. Best of luck :)

a man whos been married already n has gotten a divorce knows that he doesnt want to do that again, so maybe he wants to take things slower than he did in his first marriage. he probably doesnt want to mess up again, n if he gives u a promise ring or something he thinks ur gonna expect more n thats gonna lead to this same question, since he gave me a promise ring why not a wedding ring, jus give him time. hes not new to this. he probably jus wants to make damn sure hes doing the right thing again.

Seriously, rephrase your question into bullet points. It would make things easier to grasp.

I am a very religious person. I feel immediately that his refusal to give you a symbolic ring of his devotion to you is suspect. I do not feel that there is a lot of love evident at the moment, at least, from him.

Do not marry him yet. You must both seek counsel from the Priest or Priestess (Vicar, Pastor, Imam, Rabbi) of your Faith. Do not rely entirely on the replies of Yahoo Answers, although you were wise to ask for advice through this medium.

Talk to your holy person, and pray.

That man will never marry you. You were just the other woman. His wife probably found out about it and divorced him. He will stay with you until he finds a respectable women to spend the rest of his life with but he is not going to marry the other woman. If I were you I would move on and never get involved with a married man again. They are a dead end.

first of all, marriage will be out of the question if his kids don't accept you, secondly, he was in a bad relationship and is now just starting to come to grips with the divorce so lets just say common-law for the next 10 yrs or so

If he has just left a marriage then I can not blame him for not wanting to go straight into another one, be it the real deal or engagement. Give him time but don't pressure. Enjoy what you have at the moment.

What is your hurry? Both of you guys already married and none of your relationships worked. Do you think both of you have a chance? If you do, wait, give it some time. See how it works out.