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In all seriousness, I never thought about this as a problem per se since it's been part of my life since I started having sex.

My wife actually says that when it comes to matters of sex, our couple is reversed where she would be the "male" figure while I would seem to take more the "female" part for this reason: she gets to have many orgasms very often and easily, so she "pops a nut" very easily and quickly just like the stereotypical male image our culture has accepted. Whereas I, it takes time and effort for me to reach orgasms, and sometimes I actually don't even seem to be able to reach orgasm at all!

But that's very rare, and most of the time, it it due to the fact that I was (prior to the sex act itself) exhausted and slightly drunk. Alcohol tends to de-sensitize me on all levels, so sex feels a bit less intense when doing it under the influence.

I do not know about any medical reason for the inability to reach your peek when you're a male, and I also don't know if it would be considered serious if this is the first time it has happened to you.

If you feel really concerned you should maybe talk to your doctor; get a proffesional opinion!

Cheers

This just a part of getting older. No, don't be concerned and don't be embarrassed. Just try again another time when you are not over-tired or stressed.

For men who have this problem often or all the time, get a penal implant. My Dad got one thirty years ago and he's the most popular guy over 80 in his dance club. He got a pump-up type. He says 12 pumps (on a dice-sized object inside his scrotum) will give him a full hard. He also likes to pump it up half way and walk down the beach. He claims to have met a lot of new friends that way. If I ever need one, I will run--not walk--to the doctor.

It happens - only thing I am surprised about is that in 20 years it has not happened before. Sometimes stress can cause this to happen, or your diet, or even trying too hard (as that can cause a temporary numbing of the nerves in the penis). If it becomes a frequent problem go see your doctor.

We've been on the same age bracket and it also happened to me. We have decided to limit the frequency of our sexual encounters shortened to 3 times a week and I have observed that getting nuts are not a problem. Maybe you're both tired. Psychosomatic conditioning is required prior to pleasurable sex. Good luck!

Surprising that in 20 years it's never happened before. Stress, changes in life (job, house etc) viral infections like colds etc, and many other things can affect performance. If it's occasional, don't worry about it - things normally work out alright in a few weeks.

If the problem persists, see a doctor.

No don't be concerned. It happens to lots of guys over 40. There use to be an old joke that goes like this.....when I was younger I could go all night, now that I'm older it takes all night. Just relax you're okay.

The old story goes, the difference between concern and panic is concern is the first time you cant get it up for the second time, and panic is the second time you cant get it up the first time.

Dont worry too much. If you had an erection, but couldnt orgasm, it doesnt mean you have a problem. It could merely be stress.

Yes it has but it never worried me very much. I'm 39 and it has happened a couple of times. Next time try a little more for play to get everyone a little hotter

If you never had any problems before you could have been stressed out or thinking of other things. It doesnt take much for that to happen. When you are ready for that DONT stress out on things DONT drink alcohol.

Undoubtedly, you’re too young for that, but it just is the first alarm bell for you! Subsequently it will be the erection to vacillate first or during the act. In fact, your mishap just is one of the three/four ones complained by old men having sexual defiance or disease.