why is finding someone so complicated?

OK, I understand the situation. Yes let the first guy go, he is not into you, the second guy sounds OK unless you can't get past his young friends. The last guy is not for you either, at least not right now, Just tell the last guy that when he is available to look you up. Stay away from him in the meantime because you are influencing a decision he needs to make on his own and it could come back to haunt you. Just go about your life and if he seeks you out then he is with you because he wanted to be. Good luck.

It is complicated because it is a very complex process. If you were my daughter, I'd suggest patience, patience, and more patience and then a little more. Here's the deal. It's an extremely important thing you're doing. Why? Because there can be a great deal of pain, suffering and heartache if you and the other person make blunders. There is a reason counselors suggest waiting a long time for sex. (I know you din't bring it up--this is for illustrative purposes.) Getting the choice of an intimate partner is difficult at best so just keep looking and search especially hard for deal-breakers--things you absolutely don't want in a mate--lying, unavailability, abusiveness, dis-interest, disrespect, dishonor and so on. And always examine your standards. If any warm body will do, it's not a very good indication of compatibility.

There is no silver bullet nor magic formula.

how old are you?

and why are you so anxious to throw yourself at anybody?

do you have low self esteem/ goals in life / ambition / taste in guys?

you seem like the type that gets pregant and being single and wonder how it all happened..

if you want guys after you

then you need to make yourself vaulable

that means your looks and attitude

that menas not to be a snobby person

but to be cool that a guy WANTs to be with you

and not just hook up for a night

you have low appeal if guys are not asking you out

don't mistake bedroom politics for being attractive

those are 2 different things

there are plenty of hot looking girls that a guy would mind taking to bed...

but that as far as they want to take it..

long term they can see te problems they'll be getting in to

so they become evasive once they have bagged you in bed for a few nights

so it how guys percieve you that will get the right type of guys asking you out

remember you control that part

Well first thing, you don't want to be called "the other woman." On the other hand it seems that you "hooked up" because of certain things and it could be more of a physical thing. I may be wrong b/c I don't know the whole scenerio. But it depends on what kind of chance you want to take.

jus choose one person to b with. u have gotta b lookin 4 the 1 at your age and not b tryn to get with jus any1. i say you go with the guy who is like your best friend. the other guy u hooked up wit is jus tryn to get in your pants, whick i guess happend. but look you need to take some tim 4 you and chill till all this blows ova. put yourself frist.

Good luck

First of all, never hook up with another girls guy. What is wrong with you people. Would you want someone to do that to you. I would stay away from him. That isn't fair to his girl.

It's always that way. When your looking for anything you can't find it and when your not looking it shows up. Just life funny way of making us wait.

first find a b/f that dont have a g/f already. i bet he went to see his g/f when he went away. there are other guy out there. if you like to chat email me.

wait until he comes back and see if he contacts you... if he doesn't, he was just using you... :(

sounds like you need to stop worrying about finding someone... just let it happen... if you are good looking, it will happen...

Just use him for booty calls and forget the rest