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My baby screams then entire time anyone but me is with him. Help!?

I have an almost 5 month old who is an exceptionally happy baby -- unless someone else is holding or caring for him...even my husband. I stay at home with him all the time, except during some evening when I play softball and tennis -- during those times, I take him to his grandparents (as I have since he was about 1-2 months old)...just within the last few weeks, he has started screaming from the time I drop him off to the time I pick him up. Last night, I had to leave my ball game early because his grandma called me and said he'd been crying for an hour and a half straight. As soon as I got there and picked him up he started snuggling and smiling at me. Has anyone else had this problem AND what did you do about it? Serious answers only please.

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  • 1 decade ago
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    Sounds like he's got some serious separation anxiety. He will get more used to it over time, but you need to try to ease him into it. Try having people hold him while you are sitting next to them or across the room. Try leaving the room for small periods of time. He is still learning that when you leave, you will come back. One thing you should not do is sneak out and hope he doesn't notice. When he does realize you are gone he will freak out because he doesn't know where you are. So make sure he knows that you are leaving, always say good bye, and tell him you'll be back. They understand more than you think, and it will start helping over time. Some kids never totally get over it, but these suggestions should help. I also suggest looking up more information online, I'm sure there are lots of good sites that give advice about separation anxiety. Good luck.

  • 1 decade ago

    Your baby is at an age where he is now figuring out how to get his way. when other people are babysitting him try and reassure him that you will be back soon. Sometimes you can even try and put him in a vibrating chair to calm him down. But most important, when you are with him at home just remember that when he cries don't just go and pick him up, wait for a little bit just to make sure that he knows he is not the only one who needs attention. If he has a favorite movie, when he goes to someone elses house bring that with you and turn it on before you leave and make sure that he is watching, then when you leave don't say bye just leave quietly and then when you come back go and give him a great big hug. that is the best suggestion that I can do for you.

  • 1 decade ago

    I think about 5m they may start the "seperation anxiety". They can distinguish people with faces now.

    I never had it this bad. You need to nip this in the butt now, or they'll be clingy forever ( I know cases like that, one is almost 3 and she still cries even when daddy holds her but mother is not there!!! Another kid is like 3, she'd just cry and throw up on purpose until mommy shows up.) Let them cry, it may take weeks. One thing to do, is to distract them with toys or whatever else they may be interested. Also, when you are with him, play peek-a-boo games, so he is used to not seeing you, but come back. Increase the time that you are not visible to him. Also try to be in a different room at times, so he gets used to not having to be in your presense all the time. Also when you leave him, set a routine. Like a hug/kiss, and wave bye-bye, and tell him you'll be back. Letting them know what to expect. But remember, some kids are a lot more stubborn than others. Give it time.

  • 1 decade ago

    Separation anxiety. Most children go through this at some age to some extent. Your pediatrician can offer advice. Try leaving him for short periods of time (20-30 min.) and gradually increasing the time you're away. Maybe once he realizes you'll be coming back, he'll calm down. Just something that will take time and has to be worked through.

    Good Luck!!

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  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    It sounds like separation anxiety. I learned a little bout it in psychology class. It's a time when your child fears for you to leave it. Look it up on the Internet maybe that can help you a bit or talk to your pediatrician.

  • 1 decade ago

    Hmm I think that your baby has some insecurities. What you can try is take your husbands/ grandmas favourite most worn jumper and keep it next to your baby when they are asleep, so that they get used to the smell of them. Then when the baby has contact with them he/she will feel more secure and should stop crying.

    You should also encourage your baby to see lots of different people and babies his/her own age, otherwise he/she will cling to you only, forever.

    Plus I tell you what you can do. You can take your favourite jumper to your Grandmas house, so he/she knows you are coming back.

    I hope this helps.

    Source(s): My own experiences
  • 1 decade ago

    Yes my daughter was the same way i couldnt put her down for a second without her screaming pepole strted cracking jokes that she was attachet to me like another limb.as soon as she started being more indapendent she wanted to be put down more and more and even though she still gets upset when i leave she wont scream until i come back i know its frustrating now but he will grow out of it.

  • 1 decade ago

    My youngest was the same way, and still has her moments that she does this. I breastfeed, and I think that is why this started. What finally worked was that the person keeping her, had to find something that got her attention off of me. Her grandfather had to take her outside and walk around with her. Her grandmother had to take her to McDonald's in the playground with her older sister, I guess she liked the noise and all the kids running around. My husband has to sit down with her and a magazine, to keep her entertained.

    Whoever is keeping your child, has to find the one thing that grabs your child's attention and stick with it.

    My daughter is 13 months and there are still times that we have to bring out the bag of tricks to get her to stay with someone other than me.

  • 1 decade ago

    separation anxiety. apparently their are three common times for this: around 6 months, around 18 months, and again 2-3yrs. Our 8 month old started this at around 7 months. same thing except both mom and dad were fine...anyone else...crying. search web (we like www.babycentre.com and drgreen.com) for separation anxiety and stranger anxiety. they give techniques but it seems to us that you just have to get through it...i will be interested in reading other answers.

  • My daughter was the same way. Just know that its ok to let them cry sometimes. He needs to learn how to comfort himself. As long as you know he is being well taken care of, than its not a problem really, just let him cry. Thats what I did, and within a week my daughter stopped.

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