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Why relationships? Serious answers only please....?

I find that I am great as a friend. I was a great friend to my man before we were married. I didn't ever concern myself with extramarital problems, or "if he sleeps with some one else", or "if I am attractive enough" , or how about this one " I am a brunette, and he likes blonds" (who doesn't!!!)

Why is it that now that we are married, I am thinking about these stupid, assinine things??? I just want to be a friend again, not a "wife". How do I do this??

Men, please, you answer too. I really love my man, and I want to be ok as well as continue making him happy. Don't pull any punches. I am strong enough to handle the truth, i just need some good advice on how to make the transistion from friend to wife easily enough.

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  • smoke
    Lv 4
    1 decade ago
    Favorite Answer

    Why do you feel like you need to make a transistion from friend to wife? My wife and I were best friends the day we were married, and we still are today. We spend all of the time that we can together, but at the same time we both understand that we both need our own time away from each other to be with our friends, or be alone or what ever. If you love each other and trust each other, this is not a problem. If your man has not gave you a reason not to trust him, then trust him untill the time comes that he proves that he cannot be trusted. If he truly loves you, you will never have anything to worry about. I think you are worrying without a cause.

  • 1 decade ago

    Your married too this man now.?? If so a little too late to be friends now. Time to face the real world. Just become a great wife. Love,understanding,trust. All the best to you in your relationship.

  • ?
    Lv 4
    5 years ago

    ok you requested in case you should positioned your foot down and say you at the prompt are not. no longer what? You lost me at that aspect. yet besides, i do not opt to sound to ahead yet what's the push? If that's meant to be then enable it ensue the way it would. Did you rush into your first marriage? what's the vast circle you're relating? i visit guess that once 16 months something is going very precise because both of you're nonetheless mutually. seek for suggestion from from him about your concerns yet even if you do do no longer make him sense as if he's being compelled to pick on or you should lose him for strong. As you've stated it really is a first for him and also you've been there performed that so merely enable him come round in his personal time in case you want him adequate to attempt this. merely imagine of how you would sense if the placement were reversed and be honest. I favor you each and every of the success on your courting.

  • 1 decade ago

    All the terms of the relationship change when you get married. You should enjoy the turmoil of romance with him. You'll find your friendship with him again after things settle down between you. If you start off friends you will end up friends, which is a good thing - your marriage will likely last.

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  • sticky
    Lv 7
    1 decade ago

    Do some of the things that you used to do as friends and have fun. I think too many people let the label of 'wife' change them. You are the same person, it is simply a legal union. Nothing but a piece of paper. Don't let it get to you.

  • 1 decade ago

    Just treat him the same way you did before you got married! You don't have to suddenly put on the "wife mask"! There are no rules about this anymore- we are not Ward & June Cleaver....

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    Make the title of wife no different than the definition of friend that you had. You only change in your mind.

  • noname
    Lv 5
    1 decade ago

    Just relax and calm down. Now just be yourself. Thats why he loves you. Thats why he married you. stop trying so hard and stop worrying. Just be you.

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