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I've been together with a guy for about 15 months? I want to break up with him. Whats an easy way to say it?

there is mothing there anymore..no excitement..no nothing

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  • 1 decade ago
    Favorite Answer

    Just tell him that things aren't working for the two of you anymore you don't feel the way you use to about him

  • Rvn
    Lv 5
    1 decade ago

    Say it honestly and as classy as possible. There's a definite karma to breakups. What you dole out you will also reap at some point. Do not do it on the phone. Do it somewhere semi-public where you have enough privacy to talk quietly but where he is very unlikely to make a scene or raise his voice.

    You can say something about how much the past 15 months have meant to you and that he will always be someone special in your life when you look back on that time period. You can say that there's no one thing that is wrong or needs fixed, it's just that your feelings have changed over time and it's more a feeling of friendship than of romantic involvement. Acknowledge the good times, but be honest that you feel there's no real future for you together as a couple. Wish him well. Do not let it escalate into any kind of fight or emotional scene. If he starts to go that way (some guys do), just say, "I'm sorry you feel you have to act that way. All I wanted to do was be honest with you." And then walk away.

  • lex
    Lv 5
    1 decade ago

    it may not be the easiest option but if you tell the truth you at least can sleep at night knowing you didn't do the wrong thing,,there is nothing bad in saying the feelings just are not there any more and that you want to break up,,any feelings you have are relevant and denying them would be futile as it wouldn't solve the relationship problems,only drag them out,just be honest and walk away properly leaving him with some respect,nothing worse than having to hide from an ex in the street because you dumped them in a bad way.

  • 1 decade ago

    Hey girl, I suppose you just tell him your tired, bored, feel tied down, sorry to hurt your feelings but I am moving on......I cant be miserable like this anymore its not you its me....yeah it will hurt him....anyone who spends 15 months with someone is bound to get attached....but it might be just that an attachment and if you let him go hell be allright.....your not married or anything right? ah, hell get over it and back out there before you know it.....so go on girl be happy and forget about this dude Ive turned my back on a couple 1 after 12 yrs and the other after 8 and never looked back or even lost even one wink of sleep over them....when im done im done and done is done you can feel when its coming.....

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  • Claude
    Lv 6
    1 decade ago

    Theres no easy way unless he has hurt you or you hate each other mutually.

    If it is the way you say it is then just be straight with him. Dont promise to be his friend or give it more time or nothing! Just tell him that you feel that people get into relationships to evolve & learn from each other but you dont feel that the relationship is working out & its too late for change. Or you could tell him that you need time out for youself to clear your mind, then after a few days just dont call or speak to him & when he approaches you it will be easier for you to tell him that its over.

  • 1 decade ago

    There is no easy way. Tell him straight up and why you're doing it. If you stay together, things will just go sour in the long run. Save the heartache and do it quickly; he'll appreciate it later.

  • 1 decade ago

    well. honey im not sure how you might take this but i think we have come to an end there is just nothing there anymore so why keep up the front and lets just be friends and go on with our lives.

  • 1 decade ago

    Simple, straight, & sure way is to tell him in flat words that you do not enjoy his company anymore. There are chances he will be happy to listen this and may give u hug and kisses.... But in any case u will be free from this then after........

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    tell him the truth he will respect you more and you can go on with your life. the longer you take the more stress you have on yourself on how you gonna say this or that just tell him what you just said you aint feeling it like it was lets go our seperate ways you dont want to waste his time nor he yours

  • 1 decade ago

    THE BEST WAY IS TO BE HONEST AND GET IT OUT THE WAY AND COME TO BALTIMORE SO U CAN MEET GUYS LIKE ME....BUT SERIOUSLY ITS NO RIGHT OR WRONG WAY TO BREAK UP WITH A PERSON IT ALL ON HOW U FEEL AND HOW COMFORTABLE YOU R WITH EXPRESSING YOUR FEELINGS TO THAT PERSON SO TAKE THAT INTO CONSIDERATION

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