Trouble with losing baby weight...?

First of all, it really bothers me that your husband says that you are "disgusting", it's unsupportive and just down right mean and he may be the source of your depression. I highly recommend that he stops or go to marriage counselling especially now that the 2 of you have a baby.

Secondly, you should not diet. It's typical and healthy for a woman to carry extra pounds while they are breastfeeding. Good for you for breasfeeding, by the way. It sounds to me that you are doing everything right, the pounds will come off. I'm sure you look beautiful with the "new Mommy glow" that woman have after giving birth even with the extra pounds.

I gained 35 lbs with my pregnancy, my daughter is turning 1 tomorrow and I have lost it all plus a few more. I eat well and I do exersize but not as much as I should be. The weight will come off, I promise and it can take up to a year especially of you are breastfeeding.

I have to say even though I have not seen you, I have no doubt that you are beautiful!

I feel your pain. Personally, call me vain, but I've found gaining weight to be *completely* depressing. I don't know your husband, but if he's a good guy he probably didn't mean what he said, and I'm sure he's scarred too. My husband has tripped up a couple times as well, but I've been hyper sensitive about the extra pounds myself. (If he's not a sensitive guy, well then, it's a bigger issue.)

Anyway, do you need the zoloft? Anti-depressants can make you gain weight. I find it odd that you've gained the weight after the baby, and that makes me think it's either a hormonal or chemical (i.e. hypothryoid) response. I'm not a huge fan of antidepressants, unless you REALLY need them, but my experience is that drs are too eager to prescribe them to post partum mothers. Two weeks after my son was born a therapist prescribed them to me, claiming I had ppd. Truly, I didn't have ppd. What I needed was a babysitter, some time to myself, help coming up the learning curve, time to adjust to this MAJOR life change, and finally...I didn't really love the newborn stage! Now that my son's 14 wks old, I can say all that honestly and with some perspective. That said, anti-depressants can help some people.

Breast feeding hormones can also prevent you from losing weight. It's very individual, I know some women who lost all their weight nursing, and others who couldn't lose it until they stopped. But in your case it doesn't sound like this is the reason since your weight gain was after you originally lost the baby weight.

I've found this post below, which points to anti-depressants as the culprit, and sounds a lot like your story. Perhaps it will help:

http://parents.berkeley.edu/recommend/medical/anti...

" started taking Zoloft a few months ago for post partum depression and although it has helped my mood tremendously, my weight gain has gone beyond my control-- that is, despite regular exercise (4 days a week of intense cardio) and conscientious eating (not to mention, the 500+ calories burned from breastfeeding), I have gained 20 pounds more than I weighed right after giving birth"

Good luck. Hang in there. Remember, the weight will come off.

Will your baby nurse even when she isn't due for a feed yet? Sometimes when I'm going to be away I just feed my son before I leave, even if it's only been an hour since his last feed, so that I know he'll be fine for a few hours until I am home again. You should also start a food journal and calorie count, all the exercise in the world isn't going to help if you are still consuming more calories than you burn. Good luck, it's hard to juggle work/pumping, mothering and breastfeeding without throwing in a diet and exercise routine too. I found it vastly easier to lose the weight after my first child once I was done breastfeeding, I'm hoping it's the same with number 2.

A poll taken by parents magazine stated that it takes up to 2 years to take off baby weight. I was the same way as you. Within a month I actually weighed 25lbs less than when I started my pregnancy. Then at the 6 month mark it all came flooding back. I agree with the person who said to get your thyroid checked. That could be a reason you aren't losing the weight. I hope you are trying to lose the weight for yourself and not for your hubby. How dare he say those things to you. Does he understand that you had a whole person growing inside of you for months. He needs to worry more about being a supportive husband and father than your weight. Take the RX for your depression. It could really help you

OK, first things first. If you are always hungry, your body is trying to tell you something. Listen to it. If you are hungry, you should eat.

Secondly, I want you to throw out all conventional wisdom about three square meals. This will make it harder for you to loose weight. The healthiest way to live is by eating six SMALL meals throughout the day. Breakfast - healthy snack - lunch - healthy snack- dinner - healthy snack. This is the best way to loose weight because if you eat small meals your body has a chance to use up all the calories instead of storing whats left over as fat.

Thirdly, if you're breastfeeding you should NOT be taking Zoloft, or any drug, for that matter. Everything you eat is sent to the baby in some way or form, and I don't think your baby is depressed.

And fourthly, if your husband says you're disgusting, you should probably re-evaluate your relationship with him. Go to counseling, or sit down and talk. Nobody deserves to be verbally abused like that.

OK, first of all: The biggest problem I see here is NOT your weight....It's having a husband that tells you you're disgusting!? What is up with that? Instead of focusing on how I could lose weight, I would first look at whether I needed someone in my life that talked to me that way. He obviously has no respect for you, or the fact that you just created and gave birth to another human being...his offspring. Im sorry, but I have to say it "What an A$$hole"!!!! I don't care how big you are, you don't deserve to be treated that way by someone who is supposed to be your life partner.......the father of the child you just had. Sorry if I didn't answer your question how you wanted, but that hit a nerve. I just had a baby 4mos. ago, and my husband tells me he loves me even more, extra weight and all, just because I gave him a beautiful baby boy, and went through heck to do it. He has sooooo much respect for me and other women after seeing what pregnancy puts a woman through. I can't imagine someone telling you you're disgusting after you just gave them a miracle like that. Forget about losing weight and focus on straightening out your man's attitude!! You shouldn't have to worry about your figure right now, you're trying to nurse a baby, and adapt to being mom. That is more important than anything. Weight loss can take a back seat!! You have plenty of time for that. I mean, c'mon....it takes 9mos to put it on, don't expect it to come off any faster. You keep your baby fed and happy, and take care of yourself. You don't need any darn zoloft!! You just had a baby!! Maybe your husband is the one that needs medication! He definitely needs a reality check!!! To he!! with him, you are beautiful, and you created something he never could on his own! Be Proud.

Your husband is a real buttmunch. My wife had our baby 3 months ago, and I would never say anything like that to her, especially after she carried my child for all that time and then had to birth him as well. Thats crazy. My wife is having problems dropping the pounds as well. It sounds to me like you probably need to do the same thing as her- more cardio time. Softball and tennis are OK, but they arent great. Take up running instead, 5-6 times a week, 45 - 60 minutes per run at a pretty decent pace (at least 6 (7 is even better) miles an hour or faster- but you will probably need to work up to this). Also- if you can get some lifting in as well, 2-3 times per week, the increased muscle will help speed up your metabolism. Good luck, with your weight and your not so nice husband.

A friend of mine always made me feel better about gaining 50 lbs with my 2nd kid by reminding me it took 9 months to put it on so it's unreasonable to think it'll come off immediately! Poor thing I can't believe your husband says you're disgusting! That's just cruel! So what I did to lose weight was I'd put my little one in one of those sling deals and take her walking around the park, mall whatever. That way I could eat what I wanted and just burn up the calories.

Good luck! And don't get to hard on yourself about not losing it right away. It will come off and I'm sure you look great no matter what your hubby is telling you ;-)

Buy the book Cures They Don't Want You To Know About. The author also has a CD out that might help you. You could also do a google search on a natural way to lose weight.

Don't be so hard on yourself...sometimes the extra baby fat comes off easily and sometimes it doesn't! My first pregnancy I lost more weight and was alot smaller than I was BEFORE...but that changed after I had my next child...I became bulimic and also suffered from anorexia! I went from weighing almost 200 lbs to weighing 87 at 27! Divorced the ***! And came to a normal weight...then met my CURRENT husband and had two more children...

Remember it took you 9 months to put that weight on...it's going to take at least that long(maybe longer) to lose that weight... GOOD LUCK! You seem to be suffereing from baby blues too...Tell your husband...it's HIS fault you gained weight...Cause...if you think about it...IT IS!!!