Why is it like this?

What you need is a man who only has eyes for you and wants to dote on you. You were right in trying to overcome your feelings for him - as hard as that was. But as the saying goes "Hope deferred makes the heart sick". Far better for a man to come after you and court you, make you feel special than you longing for a guy who is with someone else, to possibly break up maybe years from now and then maybe fall for you - just too many maybes!!

Sometimes it can seem easier to wait around for something that you know in your heart most probably won't happen than it is to get on with your life and (eventually) have a beautiful reciprocated relationship. All the best.

never stop to hope but dont expect too much. Since I believe things happen for a reason, I think u better find out the real truth if he's still with this girl. If u can and if u can survive, be his best friend. That way u could love him the way u should, provided the girl is equally okay with it.

As long as you live you will have feelings, if it is meant to be it will be, don't limit your choices, don't limit yourself. Feelings will come and go, again, as long as you live and since you didn't act on them before, for the reasons you stated, shows that you are a person with a conscience and scruples, which most people don't have these days. You seem to be doing okay with out needing to ask this question. You already have a grip on it and the answer as well.

If he is suddenly coming back around and still has a girlfriend then you need to distance yourself from him if you still have feelings for him. You did the right thing by distancing yourself from him while he was in a relationship the first time. you need to put the distance between you this time so you don't have to live thru the agony again.

after trying soo hard to overcome ur feelings for him..it ll come rushing back when u see him cuz u been hidin it all long...lik uv kept it locked deep down inside of u.. u mite wna reconsider of getting back wit him...cuz somthin mite happen tht u don wna regret..u mite jus give a lil time..thn jumpin into a realtionship...why don u confirm ur feeling..be assure of them and then take the next step when u are prepared

You can be together only after he ended the relationship he currently has. otherwise you can't get his heart. But if you are planning to hung out with him now believe me you won't like every thing.

If he is still with someone else, don't get your hopes up. If he's single now and shows interest in you, then you can start hoping again and try and give it a shot.

He needs to make a choice!!! He can't stay in the relationship while leading you on! Either he is with you or with her. If he cannot make up his mind drop him and avoid all further contact! Difficult but necessary!!

Only time will tell. Sucks don't it...couldn't you just strangle him for resurfacing? I have been there and it is a confusing situation. Just wait and see. Let him sweat for a minute while you figure it out.