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My High school twins from previous marriage don't want to see me-What can I do/ will we ever see them again?
They get along great with me and my wife (their step mom) but my ex has put a lot of negative pressure on them- will they come back to us?? We have always had a good relationship with them but have had several issues with the ex- taken her to court several times for visitation!! Have not seen the boys since May, per their wishes over the summer time period but have been trying to re-establish visitation since September- called and sent a card requesting they call us... nothing. I have been very depressed about this- I know they are almost out of high school and do not mind that they would rather hang out with friends but I'm afraid that we will never see them again. Court system sucks and is expensive. Any words of wisdom???
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- 1 decade agoFavorite Answer
My siblings and I went through a similar phase when my parents got divorced too. I think you should be patient. Eventually they will realize what the ex is doing and then they will make a decision for themselves and not base it on what the ex is saying. However, I do believe that you should still call or send cards to let them know that you are always there for them if they need you. I would send a letter letting them know that just because things did not work out with you and their mother, it doesn't mean that you don't still love and care for them. It took me a bit to get myself more active in my fathers life.........but I did and I wouldn't have it any other way.
- 1 decade ago
e mail is a great way to keep in touch as I'm sure they are both on the internet. If you don't know their e mail addresses keep phoning until you manage to speak to one of them. Do not smother them a small e mail once a week asking them about what is happening in their lives is enough. In time they will contact you if they know that you care about them. I went through that with my second daughter and we see each other quite often now. The worst thing you can do is be pushy about wanting to see them since they have to live with their mother who obviously is not crazy about you.
- Maw-MawLv 71 decade ago
They are almost men so take a breather. If you were a good Father figure and sowed the right seeds, you have nothing to worry about, they have their own minds.Things only run from you when you chase them.You are the Father,and they know that.Just make sure they stay headed down the right street.
Source(s): Been there.........but with girls - Mean CarleenLv 71 decade ago
KEEP TRYING! Don't give up on them. If you had a good relationship with them they wont forget that. They may be feeling the pressure from their mom. Just dont stop trying to communicate with them and let them know you are there for them if they need you.
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- bluedanube69Lv 51 decade ago
sounds like the girls may not be getting the card you sent... I would try talking to the girls and not mom or not sending anything.... Call and ask them for dinner and talk to them. If it is their wish to be left alone you have to respect their wish but you can always call every month or other month to say hi.. talk to them and go from there...
