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I just found out from someone that my girlfriend had a three some a few years back when we were not together .

It was with 2 other guys. How should I react? Its really bothering me and She doesnt know that i know.

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  • 1 decade ago
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    One of Ghandi's seven social sins (that do actually make sense) is Pleasure without love. Hopefully your relationship is filled with more than just shallow pleasure. If not, then I wouldn't worry too much about it because you two are both on the same page of shallow love and sex. If you have a deeper relationship I would definitely talk to her about it.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    The truth of the matter is that you can't handle the truth. You have to ask yourself is this the kind of woman that i want to marry? What about when she wants to go out with her friends alone without you? moreover how about you? What you'll always be thinking and then your going to blow it and either ask her about it or you're going to try to get her to do it again only this time with two other females. And these were just the two you just found out about how do you know that there were no others in the past. You dont know what her sexual habbits are or what dangers (STD's) await you. And everytime your seen together and those who were involved with her before you will always be talking hey that the chick that we sandwiched (porno style with cheap 70's background music) that just the nature of the beast. this is just to mention a few. The question is can you really handle this? I apologize that i didnt sugar coat this for you.

  • 1 decade ago

    first why are U bothered? Seems U are not comfortable with UR sexuality. If this bothers U ask URself why would I fantize about that? Men mostly fantisize about threesomes, so are U jealous? That would be the most logical answer. If you are not comfortable with URself and UR sexuality, then the reaction U have is normal.

    Men are sooooo insecure about penis sixe(tho bigger is better) they wilt at the thought another can go where they cannot the G-Spot. So she had a fantasy come true!!! U did NOT!! How petty of U when that is one of tne most common fantasys MEN have?????? U need help adjusting UR attitude.

  • 1 decade ago

    It was in the past and it should not bother you but I can understand that now that you know about it you have some problems with it ...your only human. If it is on your mind this much just let her know that you heard something and wanted to discuss it. It may even be that this person who gave you this information is just bashing her. Never take here say from somone else. Confront her if you feel you need to but don't throw accusations about what she did it was in the past I am pretty sure your closet is not so clean.

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  • 1 decade ago

    If it happened before you two got together, then you should do nothing. I never suggest that people discuss their past sexual encounters with their current partners for this exact reason. How do you know it is the truth? Have you ever heard of rumors... alot of times, these are spread by a jealous person. What she done with her life before you is none of your business. I admit that if she did that, it's dis-tasteful, but if you love her then why should this change your mind? You can ask her but it's not going to solve anything. If she did it, she did it, she can't erase her past and she probably feels AWFUL about it, as she was probably used!

  • 1 decade ago

    If it was before you guys hooked up - there is nothing you can do or say about it. Everyone experiments, and I'm sure you have had your share of experiences. If you really need to, communicate with her about it - but the past is the past for a reason.

  • 1 decade ago

    If it bothers you, you should ask her or stop going with her. But, do you know that it's true? Guys sometimes brag and make up stories about girls.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    If it's in the past, then let it go already.

    Ya gotta get over yourself and your hang ups or you'll never keep a relationship.

  • 1 decade ago

    It occurred before you were a couple. As long as she is disease free, it's not your business. Everyone experiments, and if she had wanted you to know, she would have told you herself.

  • 1 decade ago

    ACCEPT THE FACT. THAT WAS IN THE PAST. I AM SURE SHE IS A NICE GIRL NOW.

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