Why do peolpe think that the "NORM" is what they believe?

People think that the "norm" is what they believe it is, because they think they're normal... & unless they see it as otherwise, they'll continue believing it's normal.

The "norm" is only what is the "majority" at the time. If we all walked on our hands, then that would become the "norm"

I don't think your situation has anything to do with the "norm" it's about people and the way they re-act toward each other.

Normally, (not in the context you are citing) two people who don't get along in marriage/relationship are going to have issues if they stay in the same place together.

So what you're saying is it's all an "act" for the sake of the kids..I don't think they will appreciate that, and they will see right through it.

Kids are very perceptive

Well then... Why do you believe that when you post a question here you will only get responses from people who believe same thing as you do?

Of course you're going to have different opinions. In this particular situation, there will be people who will say, stay together for the kids; OR, stay together for God; OR, dump him/her; go to counseling, don't go to counseling, get a lover, don't cheat, etc etc.

The truth is, no one here is aware of your situation fully. There are plenty of cases when it's actually better for the kids for the parents NOT to be together. You're posting questions to get different perspectives - and you're getting them. Not all of them will agree with your views, and some may be outright stupid - big surprise.

If yall can agree to raise the kids and live in a fight free environment, then I see no problem. The only problem I see is if one of yall meet someone new, how is that going to work out. Yall are putting your lifes on hold for the kids. That to me seems unhealthy for the parents. If the kids pick up on yall discord and kids are pretty smart nowadays, they pick up on stuff, then they are going to think the way yall live it the way marriage is suppose to be. I see that as unhealthy for them. I commend you and your wife for what yall are doing, but you might want to check with a professional on kids about how this could affect them long term. Good luck, I hope everything works out how you want it to.

I agree... it's easier to stay when you can get along, but, if you are not happy and can't compromise then you need to agree to seperate, not just one of you think seperation is the best. It needs to be worked out and discussed with the kids also, if they are old enough to understand.

I don't know what you are talking about when you say "normal". 50% of all marriages end in divorce, so that's normal. Half of the ones that don't get divorced aren't happy marriages so that's as normal as a happy marriage, and both are less normal than divorce these days.

Why are you dragging "normal" into this?

I would say I think you would make a FABULOUS family together............You have a brilliant idea and if more people in this world could "think outside the box" there would be lees divorce..........Do what your heart tells you to do.

Fabulously put I might add. Thank-you!