Is there an answer to mid-life crisis?

first off, yes that sounds creepy to most people. BUT, what is she missing in her relationship with you? Maybe it's time for her to separate for a little bit. Maybe she's trying to recapture her youth? Is she going through her sexual peak?

She needs to talk to her primary care physician, get a correct diagnosis, and if needed, get on some medications and/or seek therapy sessions to see what is going on.

It could be possible that she's reached her sexual peak later than most women do and she wants to feel like a young sexy women again, not a middle aged housewife. Try to do something a little different and exciting with her, treat her like you did when you were first in love, go away for the weekend, comment on how nice she looks out of the blue, don't wait for her to dress up for an occassion. Put some ooomph back into your wifes life, it would do you both he world of good.

Time to be direct...playing with 17 y/o boys? Embarassing her sons? Her behavior is outta control. My eldest son had a girlfriends Mother who bought him expensive gifts. I made him return them...she did not take no for an answer. She gave me the creeps....and I always told my kids that if an adult makes the hair on the back of their heads stand up---trust those feelings and get far far away.

One day my son did not report to school-I got called at work. I went to her house where my son was hanging out there with her daughter, who stayed home from school ill. After I left for work that a.m. she picked my son up at the bus stop and brought him to her home to stay with her daughter-she went to work.

I contacted the local authorities, and declined my son seeing the girl, whom I had nothing against. Three months later the same woman was arrested for smoking pot with a couple 14-15 y/o boys at the ball field---she apparently hung out there. Other rumors circulated regarding her 'hands-on' approach to gainng friendships with these boys...talk to yor wife and sons before you have Social Services in your life, or the Police at your door. No mid-life crisis should bring a minor into it.

Yes at her age she is pondering...is this it? But if she wants something else, she could choose the harder road, school, job change, new look for herself, Yoga, volunteering etc---being the local boys toy mom is not an option....and think about what that leaves your sons---kids talk------and talk, your poor boys probably have heard things about their Mom that they are not comfortable with..protect them first.

If this is not a joke-

Yes you have a problem. I do not understand 'burning', I am thinking smoking tobacco. Sounds to me like she is on the prowl.The main question is "why". This you need to know. I would get her away, alone, for the purpose of confronting this behavior, and let her know why up front. If she refuses or lies and you know it-tell her you know. Don't argue or fight-just inform her that something is wrong. Ask her to go with you to a family and marriage counselor. Be prepared for counseling for yourself also. This may be bigger than you think, or you may at fault and not realize it. Seek professional help.

Confront her. Get it out in the open. Go to couples therapy. Good luck.

It doesnt sound like menopause to me, however, she does have something wrong. Before she ends up in jail for underage sex you need to get some help for her. Why havent you done this yet?

Talk to her, alone. If that doesn't work, get therapy for you both. What does "she is burning" mean?