Help Me! Video games have kidnapped my boyfriend! I'm afraid he's not the same guy i fell in love with.

im going thru the same sort of thing. my relationship is way longer than yours and my guy is 24 and he is also working on a degree for computer science and forensics....i thought that was normal until i would go to his place and he would ignore me...i would just walk away and ignore him back! most of the times i fell asleep listening to music on my MP3 player which is sad! now my bf sort of passed that phase where videogames were his world but he still plays them and the only thing i can do is to do my homework or read a book or be on my cell or cook or something. ...your bf is going thru some weird videogame stage where he wants to beat a level and he cannot therefore he gets frustrated therefore he curses and uses bad words because he is mad...! keep yourself preoccupied while he plays for lets say 2 hours tops and that is it! have a talk with him and tell him that if you are over you would appreciate it if he would nor curse and to pay attention to you and not the videogames! if he gets mad which he will tell him that he can play his game for an hour and then you two can watch a DVD and he cannot comment or make excuses!if he keeps it up just get out of the relationship honestly since if he is willing to pay more attention to some stupid game and not the time he has with you he is taking you for granted! as for you putting up with his tantrums well, just get out of the relationship because you never know what can trigger him to go at your throat or call you names or curse you! he seems to have anger management problems and just because he has a bad day does not give him the right to take it out on you!!!!!! wha next, he will become physically abusive but by "accident" since he cannot control his temper?think of all the worst case scenarios and then think if you want to be with a guy who is obsessed with video games, does not spend quality time with you, treats you poorly, takes out his stress or bad day on you and gets aggrivated with you? even if you love him please leave him and i am giving you this advice as a friend since i am 22 also and in college, because he is pushing you away and throwing away the good relationship he has or by his actions he seems not to care for you anymore.. he takes you for granted and you are his outlet to release his stress and anger and bad day and nothing more... if he actually loved you he would spend time with you and would not treat you so poorly or take out his bad day on you but rather act nice, sweet, would not curse if he knew you hated it !

ingrid

Usually if you are crushing on another guy while doubting your relationship, the crush is a byproduct of the doubt. In other words, you are developing feelings for this other guy because you are, in essence, in need of a way out of your current relationship. For many people, it is not easy to accept that the relationship has hit a lull and so they find some other reason for the relationship to end, rather then it just being over. In short, you're affection is straying so that you will, if necessary, have an excuse to break up with your bf besides "I'm bored". That being said, the best thing for everybody in this situation is probably to take a short break from the relationship. 2 years is kind of a long time, especially for a boyfriend at the age of 15-17. It is perfectly acceptable for you to need some time apart- whether as a permanent break up or just a breather would have to be determined later. Take some time to figure things out. It's ok, you're 17, you're allowed to be a little indecisive. You should not, however, leave your boyfriend for this other boy (doesn't matter if he is or isn't interested in you, don't do it). It isn't fair to your boyfriend, it won't really help you, and it really isn't fair to this other boy. Think of it this way: if you dump your boyfriend because you are in love or lust or crushing on this other guy, that's a HUGE amount of pressure on this guy. You're pretty much telling him that he is the reason your relationship failed, which isn't true. Do not use another boy as an excuse to end your relationship. Figure out the problems with your relationship and then proceed from there. If, eventually, you do break up, it should not be because of anybody except the two of you.

What you describe seems to me to be a sign of a larger problem. Getting randomly annoyed at you? Telling you to accept it or leave him? These are not healthy things. Sadly, I feel that this is the end of your relationship UNLESS he sees the error of his ways. Unfortunately, only he can convince himself of this. If he does not feel he is doing harm to the relationship, nothing you say can make him think otherwise. If that is the case, leave him. Save yourself the grief. Good luck.

After three months he wants to marry you?

It's psychological abuse. I think you should tell him it's you or the video games. He could play when you two aren't together and on occasion when you are; but not constantly.

He needs some sense knocked into him. He's going to lose you.

If you don't feel it's right, you should get out!

i think he is a nerd and you shoulld talk to somone that plays playstation not on the computer

omg... I know Why are they so childish??? Why how can we get em away from the video games??? lol

you obviously dont have what it takes to keep his attention

work on it