What to do? Now or later?

Who cares.. you have other people's support. My sister wanted to do the same thing.. and my sibling had a problem with it..because she wanted to get married in the month of christmas. So she didnt have the money to get a dress for her self...and I told my sister that.. People dont tell her when to have a wedding. its your wedding. you dont do whats convident for them you tell them what day you want to do it and how you want to do it. I mean events dont change for one person. you may not have that sibling there but at least your happy and its their problem. Do whats in your heart. and it looks like you know what you want. dont let anyone stop your happiness to just match their agenda. There will always be someone that cant make it. dont stop your world for the ones that cant make it but to do what was planned for the ones that will make it. thing is whats more important...your mom being there, that may have life shortening. or a sibling who is just stubborn. and has a whole entire life ahead. there will be events that your sibling will be able to attend..that your mom wont. take her illness to heart and your happiness too. Good luck.

Remember you cant devote all your time to make people happy.

Your happiness comes first as theirs comes together too in time.

Im really sorry about your moms illness...The most tragik think in life is loosing your parents. i feel for you. In all the luck in the world. I wish you the best. and I think you should do what you first planned. and i know its hard your trying to keep the whole family happy.. and the way you wanted to do it. is perfect.

The way your doing it, is the best way anyone can do it. My older sister did it.. and it was wonderful...and now my twin sister is doing it.. and I did a small wedding with just me and my mom and my sister and my dad.. and later me and my husband is saving up for a big wedding..and it keeps everyone happy. and its wonderful.

Sorry to hear about your mum's condition. With regards to what should be done I know what you want and what your siblings want but not what your mum wants. I know most mum's will like to be at their kid's wedding but what frame of mind is she in now? Would going to your wedding be joyous or a strain on her?

Maybe you can tell your mum how much you would like her to be there and then ask her for her feedback. Sharing this with your mum should make it all the more special. Even thought it is your special day you may not know what she wants to do with however much time she has left.

Hope your wedding is everything you wish for. Congratulations and best wishes.

go ahead and have your intimate family wedding 1st dont worry about your siblings do what you can live with if she is still here in march for the 2nd wedding then great if not your wont have regrets on the day ...sorry about your mum best of luck

You should definately go ahead with what you want. It is your wedding and not your sibling's. I can't believe your sibling would be mad about this in the 1st place knowing the circumstances and the point again, is that it is YOUR wedding.

It's your day not your siblings. Do what you want, have the small wedding with your mother there.

Good luck, I really feel for you. x

Do what would be best for YOU. So what if your sibling is against it, it's YOUR wedding and if you want your mom to be there (which I'm sure she really wants to be there for it) do what you want to do.

I would move my wedding up so my mother could be there and i would ask the doctors what she needed.

It's YOUR wedding-you're getting married so do whatever you feel like doing. Because if anything happens later on to your mother ( hope it doesn't) and she wasn't there to see you walk down the alise you'll seriously regret it!.

I think that is a wonderful idea! I'm sure it would mean a lot to you and your monther and you would always have that memory. I'm so sorry to hear about your mother's cancer. I hope you are able to spend some quality time with her. Take care.

If I were scared that my Mom would not make it that long - I would definately move it up. It may cause a bit of a money problem but that is nothing to not having Mom there. Sorry about you Mom and Good luck.