What to do? Now or later?

This is tooo much of a coincidence.... My son's birthday is March 17th. My husband and I were going to get married in August 06 after the birth of our 2nd child. We found out in February that my mother had cancer in r-shoulder, lung and lymph nodes and pelvic bones. I chose not to get married fat (pregnant) and in a dress. I really wanted my mother there at my wedding as my father had already passed 12 years ago. The doctors told my mother she had 10-12 months to live. Her goal was to see my baby girl be born and be in my wedding. Also, small immediate family only. She died in my arms on April 9th... My opinion.... DO IT NOW !!! No-one is promised tomorrow and I will never forgive myself for not doing it while she was here with me. We ended up at a justice of the peace because I could not bare to plan or have a real wedding without my mother/my best friend.

I`m very sorry to hear about your mom. You should by all means have a private ceremony as soon as you can so that your mom will be able to attend. Since this has appeared in the bones, that means that she may not be able to attend in March as she may be too weak. I do not understand why your siblings are wanting you to not do what you want so that she can be there. There have been many couples who have had a private ceremony and had a larger formal wedding later. If everyone cannot understand why you will be doing this, then they are the ones with the problem, not you. God Bless

i am so sorry yo hear this but i see you are a very strong person and you are close to your mother. and in a time like this you should be. as for the wedding i understand why you would want to have a wedding where your mother could attend. why would your siblings want to ruin a special moment like that. i don't know any children who wouldn't want their parents there at the wedding. i say go for it, but first consult your mother first. she's the one you should worry about when it comes to feelings.

I would tell my sibling to leave me alone it is my wedding and I will do what I want. Then I would have a small family wedding and then a big one.

Then tell the sibling she or he can go to whichever wedding they want to. Show them you are in control of your life and you will decide what is best for it.

Who cares if your siblings are against it...Its YOUR life and your wedding and if you want to make sure your mother is able to be there for your nuptials...doing something now makes a lot of sense. Let your sibs know that in life you dont have to agree with something to go along with it; especially if all they are doing is being supportive. G'luck and I hope your mother gets to see you walk down the aisle.

If everything is done prepared and paid all..then do as early as you can,,,,and be happy as life goes on.

do what mom wants to do. period.

do what YOU AND YOUR MOM wants to do. period.