Am I right to feel this way....?

Two bad things about this - one) he's looking at porn and 2) you're snooping through his stuff. There is a huge lack of communication going on between you. Why don't you guys talk and see if you can sort this out?

You are going through the same situation as I'm. It feels really bad to see that most of the women are going through the same pain and agony. My husband cheats on me too. He watches porn online which includes naked girls ( all types of ), live webcams, and sex talks. I've caught him up with all this mess many a times but he doesn't listen to me. I have got tired of him and i feel like walking out on him. Your husband is cheatin on you too. I can feel your pain. No matter whether they are white or Latinos, they are women. There is no other solution than to leave him on his behalf. Stop bothering yourself with his stuff. If you find him looking at women's picture, don;t get urself bothered by that; simply ignore him for a while. Once you stop caring about him and his stuff, there is more likely to be a chance that he will stop cheating on you because he will know you don't give a damn about him. Try to put up with this situation while being strong and patient. Don't let that fool feel you are being bothered by his online activities bz otherwise, he is never going to stop it. The other alternative is that you can divorce him if you want to, its totally up to u. Its you who can tell if its worth trying.

I have almost stopped caring abt my husband. I dont care any longer whom or what he is looking online for. He is wasting his time so i let him to do that. One day he is going to cry when he will be left with nothing and that day is not too far. Let these men get drowned in their own water.

My friend, remember men like to fantasize about women. It doesn't matter their origin, race, color or culture.

Don't feel bad, or less because your husband finds exciting looking at women different From you, remember he is with YOU, and if he stays with you is because he loves you. It's OK to feel insecure, but guys like to experience different things, and maybe he is NOT cheating on you, only fulfilling a desire or fantasy, in which YOU could help.

If he likes oriental or Latina's girls, get a black or brunette wig, get some clothes and make his fantasy. Maybe that's what he is trying to make you understand. It's not that he is cheating on you, but men need some new things in the relationship to make it better, longer and stronger.

About he marrying you, he did it because he loves you, and he looks for the opposite to just fantasize. Don't worry, if he tells you you are the best wife ever, YOU ARE. BELIEVE IN YOU. SURPRISE HIM!

So go on, make his fantasy, SURPRISE him, I tell you, he is never going to forget it, and by the way you get HIM back.

Your feelings of confusion and hurt are legitimate and they need to be dealt with so that bitterness does not boil up.

Some guys just get turned on by something (someone) they don't have. For them it is fun to get hot over someone different than their spouse (in race and looks). Perhaps that is why he likes to check out oriental and latino women. I don't think he is comparing you to them and wishing he had someone more like his race. He is just getting turned on by something different--someone he knows he doesn't have, will not be able to have, and will never get. It is just a fantasy.

Good luck.

Your not wrong ur being treated poorly and u shouldn't be. Honey all i can say is be careful and keep a look out don't let him take advantage of u. Your not anyone's slave. I'm sorry u have to feel this way and i will hope for the best. Keep pressing on and don't let go until u have all the answer's!!!!! Good luck!!!!!!!!!

Wow! You're not wrong at all. He is TOTALLY disrespecting you. You have every right to be concerned, but there is really nothing that you can do to make him stop it. He has to choose to stop or he'll continue to do it. If you are unhappy there are only two things to do. Stay and try to work it out or leave and be rid of the problem.

this is very big because this is going to really affect the way you value a men but you are being disrespected and these are signs of a unfaithful man i say get out while you still can are call me and I'll be your maintenance man lol it might be the best thing to do is talk to someone cause it's going to get to the point where he wants u to settle with the way he is

I would be very concerned about his porn problem, especially if he is looking for local women. I think you are right to feel hurt and confused. I sounds like your husband has a problem. Seek professinal help

no your not wrong. if he doesnt want to talk about it, there isnt very much you can do (that i can think of) except pray . God allows things to happen in our lives for a reason.

i guess you could try to spend morew time together and maybe take a trip somehere to rekindle the flame :D

all the best !

You are not wrong at all. You are being disrespected and mistreated by your husband. Unfortunately, you can't stop him from looking it has to be something that he chooses to stop looking for. If I were you I would suggest going to marriage counseling with your husband. Good luck to you...