Totally in love with my boyfriend but family HATES him...really need help on this one!?

You will be happier with someone else. Leave this guy to sort out his problem & find someone your age. Now all might seem rosy but as years go by you will start feeling frustrated over his being old & you still enjoying your youth. It would be embarassing to take him to places & eventually things might turn sour.Your parents are right!

If you were my daughter I would be concerned too. Your b/f is old enough to be your father. And then the drinking with ugly mood swing on top of that! Has your b/f been married before? Does he have children? Have you met his parents, or brothers and sisters? Find out a little about his past. Find out if he was married and why he's not now. If he's never been married, find out why. Until you find out what kind of a situation you have gotten yourself into, and you know without a doubt you love the "good side" of him. Maybe you should part until he gets the professional help he obviously needs. Then give the guy a chance. I'm still concerned over the age difference even if he does get control of his drinking and mean behavior when drunk. It just doesn't seem normal to be in love with some one old enough to be your dad, or your daughter. There have been cases where it has worked out for some couples with huge age differences. But it's not that common.

If he has a drinking problem, lose him. He will not change.

Your family dislikes him for a reason. They're not just being hateful, it sounds like they're genuinely worried about you.

It's almost impossible to be objective about a relationship that you're in the midst of. You are 23. The rest of your life is ahead of you. But nothing I or anyone else says will make a difference, it is impossible to talk sense into a woman who's in an unhealthy relationship-- I know that from personal experience.

Honestly, I don't think you can fall in REAL love on a first date. Real love takes time. If your family is not feeling this guy, maybe you should try to understand the reasons why. For example: "When he gets really drunk he turns really mean for no reason. " Your family is way more important than a boyfriend. You can get a new boyfriend, who treats you better, but you can't get a new family. P.S. If he loved you as much as you think you love him he wouldn't drink and then rage on you. Good Luck.

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Hi, Did you know that you are in the same boat that I am. I am 26 years old and my husband is 42. My mother lives about 12 hours away from me. My husband and I have a daughter together and she is 16 months old. She is legally blind. DON'T have a child with him first off. I know I can't tell you what to do but please don't because men in their older years of live make children and something comes out wrong. I know my daughter is living proof of this. Second to your situation you are in now. Your mother is not your boss because my mom did the same thing yours is doing. She called the police and they came to my house to check me out. She and I don't talk anymore. We will never talk about because she doesn't like my husband.

I will give you some advice to think about. If sex is good now when you and him continue to see each other into the future you will notice that sex is no longer good. Older men have a tendency to want to be sleep alot more then younger guys.

If your mother is telling you that he doesn't like him then listen to her a bit. If you feel differently about that then go for it but I will tell you that moms know best. Send me an email sometimes and we can talk if you would like.

Sounds like your boyfriend knows women his own age won't tolerate his abusive behavior. At 41 he should know by now that he can't handle his alcohol. You're too nice and too forgiving. Get out of that situation while you can. If he really loves you he'll make the changes necessary to win you back. You deserve better.

i just got out of a relationship like this. your family is seeing him as controlling and manipulative. the fact he has more issues than he admits to should be a giant red flag. it took my ex threatening to kill me after he broke up with me for me to see him as he really was. I hope for your sake things don't get that bad, but you might want to take a step back and think about things. talk to your friends about this and take their councel for heart. these people love you and want the best for you. good luck

You CANNOT change another person!!! If he gets mean when he is drunk you should RUN as far and as fast as possible and never look back. Your family is seeing the real him. You are looking thru your" love" which will fool you. Please get out of this relationship while you still can.

I think your family is right,and you have seen the cat ,don't close your eyes. Make Decision now and get rid of him ,latter you are going to have more problems,so better give a good thinking and take a Decision now.