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I have feelings for my husbands friend(ex boss)?

I am completly devoted to my DH, but latley I have been having feeling for my husbands friend, His old boss and I am going crazy. I would never act on anything, is it normal if you are happy to have feeling so strongly for another person? I do think he has flirted with me a little, but maaybe it just in my mind

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  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago
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    Yes, i think it is perfectly normal for happily married people to get enamored with another person from time to time...! The flirting that you think came from him may just be friendly interaction...I wouldn't risk acting on my feelings if i were you! You may embarrass yourself, and alienate your hubby! Good luck...

  • 1 decade ago

    We all have active fantasy lives. The guys will tell you (if they are honest) that theirs change from week to week. The problem is when you focus on someone that it's possible to interact with. Believe me this is normal, but you may want to focus on staying away from that person for awhile. As others I'm sure have said, "just don't act on it". I would take it a step further and if it's like the person you are talking about, just stay away. You know a wild fantasy life has creeped up here so often it might be something interesting to study! Might be a cool thing to keep your mind of YOUR fantasy for a while. Good luck

  • 1 decade ago

    Maybe you need to get a grip!!! if you love your husband you would not have these type of feelings you should be trying to figure out why you are not having these feelings for your husband,is there something missing in the bedroom because even though you have not acted upon your feelings towards his ex boss you are still be unfaithful to yourself and husband.you should be happy you have a spouse if he's not beating you but just loving you thats the key!!! but throw him aside and someone will scope him up

  • 1 decade ago

    Yes, this is normal to feel this way. You are human. You are NOT perfect. It is good if you have not acted on these feelings, but my advice to you is that ya'll back off...The more time you spend around eachother the harder it will be to resisit. Trust me, I have been in this situation before...Back off if you love your husband because in the long run he is the only for you. A fling is a fling but a marriage CAN last forever.

  • 1 decade ago

    Is it normal? Of course it is. It would be un normal if you went your entire life, without ever feeling something for someone other than your husband. Just because we say I do, doesn't mean our brains work differently! Flirt back with him, see what happens, that will be your true test at loyalty.

  • 1 decade ago

    Take a cold shower!

    Then make sure you aren't around this EX-BOSS. You see him some where, turn around and go the other way.

    Keep all the lust in your heart for the man who loves you.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    Life is always full of sursprises.......think carefully before you wanna do anything.......your husband may feel really sad if he knew how you felt about someone else......let time passes and see what happens.....your infactuation may go away instead......good luck

  • It's normal to have fantasies (they can't be "feelings" at this point, because you haven't had time together) about other people. As long as you don't act on them, it's OK. Like my wife always tells me... "I don't care where you get your appetite, as long as you eat at home."

  • 1 decade ago

    don't act just yet...wait for a while...just tell your husband's friend that you might have SOME LITTLE fellings for him...unless he has a wife or girlfriend...then don't tell anybody but a physician...I'm a physician...but you'll have to pay me...but anyways...just tell him...good luck!

  • 1 decade ago

    You need to distance yourself from your husbands friend...You will end up doing something that you will regret...

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