Break it off with him? Adults only please.?

You mentioned that you have a granddaughter. Is your ex-husband still alive? If so, you have no business dating.

I use to have a friend like this. He hated being around his own kids, because they didn't drink, and he was a drunk. If he was invited over to a home for a holiday, Thanksgiving, he'd go and leave as son as the meal was over. AS for christmas, he wouldn't go at all, cause he wanted to spend all his money on his booze, not gifts for those he didn't care about.

Are you sure this boyfriend of yours didn't have other places to go, instead of with you?

IF spending time with your family is more important than finding a new life for u now that you already raised your children, then you have made the decision to be alone.

if you take a step back from your self and look at your question you already answered it...you are family orientated individual and that means a great deal to you...if he wont be a part of that then there is a problem with that. talk to him and see if it can be resolved,if you already have and nothing changes....only you can make that decision...but if you are content being alone why does it matter if he participates or interacts with the family? Only you know the path of your heart...just listen to it

You know what you want and you know what you are getting. If you are not getting enough of what you want then it is time to end the relationship. If you talk to him and he is unwilling to change and you really need more then it is time to move on. Another way of dealing with the problem is to continue the relationship without it being exclusive. That way if the "right one" comes along you are available, and you won't be tempted to get involved with another so-so partner just because you are bored. Good luck and may God bless you!

maam being that you have some experience in life you already know what needs to be done.once you talk to this guy and put everything out on the table as to what you are looking for,and that you are more family orientated,and if he is not you are thinking about moving on from the relationship the two of you have.once you talk things out you should be able to see where you two stand and where to go from there.

I would think one of the joys of later-in-life relationships is that you don't have to go through all that mess with other people's relatives any more. It usually just causes more trouble when everybodys' mixed up in everybody's business, why not just let these relationships stay simple and separate, just as you would with a girl friend, especially because then you don't have to get all mixed up with his relatives either. I don't like obligatory relationships anymore myself. I'd rather choose my own significant people based on who I enjoy and have things in common with. He sounds very independent, but so do you. I'd be with my family whenever I wanted to and let him do what he wants too. Ms. Fruitbat wishes you luck.

maby he is going through some rough times and he has been hurt in the past? he might be keeping his distance cause he is afraid of the same thing that happened in his past? there is alot of factors that play out in a relationship....what i would do is talk it over with him and see what he wants out of the relationship...i mean give it a little, two years is alot of time so see what he wants and if the family is too much you can always be friends...what im saying is dont force a relationship...good ones just happen

If he isn't the kind of person you are looking for, then don't continue the relationship. No offense, but at either of your ages, you can't expect that you'll change him. And if family is THAT important to you, and not at all important to him, then that should be a huge indicator. Not that you can't continue a friendship, but a marriage I would think would work against your values.

I think you sound very content in being alone if need be. I understand family is the most important thing...and especially a new grandbaby...congradulations! If you try talking to him and really tell him what you feel, and things don't change to make you and your family happy, then maybe you should think about leaving...considering you'll be happier alone. You only have one family, and they will make you the happiest...good luck

You have to make a choice then,do you want to be with him for sex or for a real relationship. If it is the relationship then you must be able to see he isn't into having a relationship with you? So it is the sex or your family and only you know which is the most important to you

You stated this very clearly. AND you said you plan to tell him how your feel. Maybe he's giving all he can. Maybe he doesn't know what you want and you have to ask. Does he see his own family?

You won't know until you talk with him. We're all limited. The question is, can you accept his limitations? I'm not saying you *should* accept them.

And sometimes, it IS better to be alone! I know....

Yes, I'm an adult, approaching 60 also. :-)