I'm fat and ugly, how can I get any females to see past that?

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Call me cynical, but I very highly doubt that if I approached a girl at a club or a bookstore or whatever that she would seriously consider dating me. I know I wouldn't if I were a female. It would be one thing if I were just average, but I am well below average. I think most girls are just as shallow about looks of the opposite sex as guys are. Sure personality helps, but looks put you over the top and I just don't have them. And you girls might "say" that looks don't matter, but that's the first judgement that is made. You look at the person and decide if they're attractive or not. What comes out of our mouths is secondary. So with all that being said, short of working out (which would take years to get to my ideal shape) what can I do? And if you tell me to think positively, then tell me how I could possibly think positively looking the way I do.

S h ä r k G û m b ò · Accepted Answer

There are two approaches you can try. Neither involve your appearance. While it is true that women are shallow and pretty much obsessed with physical appearance, there are other things they value more.

Firstly : money. Lots and lots of money. This will work with any woman.

Secondly : become a "bad boy". Start breaking the law, treat women badly, be prepared to cheat on them or slap the around some once you do get them.  They seem to love that.

postcardtrader · Answer

First of all, you are not ugly.  You were created in God's image, and God does not make mistakes.  
I get the sense that there is an underlying reason why you think you're ugly.  Until I started counseling this year, I felt the same way about myself, so I understand what you're feeling.  
Until my sight went bad, I admit I used to look at a guy's looks first.  Now, I look at a guy's heart, because to me, that's what matters most of all.  
I wish you well.

camm300 · Answer

My boyfriend is exactly the best looking guy of 2006.... looks have never been an issue for me. I would hate it if my bf was totally hott but didn't know how to put two sentences together.... it would be a waste of time to me to date someone like that. Now, you say you are ugly, but you don't put a picture so no one here can honestly say that you are ugly. You don't sound ugly, just very low on self-esteem. And any girl that is going to judge you by your looks is not good enough for you. You sound like a very nice, intelligent person, and I think that is way more important that looks.

Anonymous · Answer

your probably not going to get a super model, but you need to find a direction in your life and be the best you can be at what you decide to do. women like security, be a success, have a sense of humor. focus on liking yourself and improving yourself and people will notice you. older women are less picky than younger ones. we all want a porn star but you may have to change your preferences to find a mate

xXtheemo1Xx · Answer

well appearance doesnt really matter n money aint the answer im startin 2 date this guy n ya he tells me that hes fat n stuff n well he kinda is but i dont care cuz wat mostly got me is that hes like soooooo sweet n nice n stuff n thats mostly wat got me just b a nice guy n talk 2 every1 (girls, boys, etc.) n maybe eventually 1 of the girls will like u

★stargirl★ · Answer

Firdt off all not money...not every girl cares about it that much (me)  IM me at Andrea_keeler2003@yahoo.com If you wanna talk.

:) i can give you advice

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