ladies only?????????

You are so stupid. For starters why would a women do something she doesn't want to do??? Next, 97% of affairs don't have anything to do with sex..it is just a by product if you will. We can't begin to have the time for a more in depth discussion. Basically men or women if you want to cheat don't be a coward - tell your spouse "I am not happy and want to be with someone else" - at least give them that much.

As for your fantasy land...get over yourself. You married your wife and she didn't play porn queen and then stop after marriage she probably never played porn queen. You loved her then and you must find a way to curb your selfish little sexual appetite and compromise. If you are patient and show her love, affection and attention she might be more open to your wishes, but with your attitude now...good luck!

I do dare to answer this one!!!

Not every woman wants to argue all the time. Actually, I hate to argue. It is a utter WASTE OF TIME! The time I spend with my man is priceless! He is away from me so much that when we are together, our time can't be spent with stupid stuff. We deal with our issues and move on.

A private sexual act is just that private. What a woman will or won't do is completely up to her. If a man asks his woman to do something and she is uncomfortable, why should she feel guilty or be made to feel guilty about that? Why should she bear the burden or any of the guilt of her "partner" going to someone else and cheating?? That is so unfair. If a man knows his woman, he knows what she likes and what she doesn't. If he has fantasies that he knows that she can't "get with" then he needs to deal with that. If he can't then maybe he has the wrong woman. He needs to find another one and leave her alone! Hurting a woman just because a man can't control his erotic fantasies, is completely unfair and the man should "MAN UP" and accept the responsibility for his own actions.

No, a woman should not just "give in". However, many women do just that, thinking that it will keep their partners from straying only to find that their partners had already strayed and were still straying. That's where they were getting all the "new" ideas from.

Come on...if a woman was going to indulge in these activities, her man would not have to ask her too many times...she would just turn him out with them! And who knows whether or not he would stray anyway. It all comes down to the character of the MAN!

And give me a break...men go with their women shopping to keep them from spending too much money!!! I know...my man was honest enough to tell me the truth about that.

You know, if you have to do something you really don't want to or like to do versus that man is going to cheat. then be gone and you won't be cheating and find someone who will do what you want. As far as men liking shopping? I hear a lot of men complaining about shopping but I don't hear to many men complaining when the dinner bell is ringing. And maybe if these men spend more time shopping and helping out, the women would like a little fantasy on both parts.

OK ...i cant speak for all of us on this one but i am certainly willing to do a bit of fantasy..oral not so much but will do it once in a blue if he is clean and not smelly my ex was uncircumcised and only took a bath in the morning before work yuck anal thing i have not tried yet but that would be a maybe if i was asked and yes a little drunk..now answer me one.. why do men think that 4 play should last only a couple of minutes and why do they finish there thing in just under 2 minutes and wonder why we don't want to put all of our energy into love making when we know it takes less time to cook a microwave pot pie than it does to make love to our minute man

Well I think that both the women and you are wrong. I find no problem doing something for my guy that I might not in general care to but, then again he does the same. It should be 50/50. I understand that men may feel like they need to shop, but just remember that shopping doesn't discriminate; I have no problem shopping as well and believe it or not, there are many more women out there that believe the same. So just remember when you decide to leave Target for that snazzy Neiman-Marcus, just make sure you have a place to go after you run out of money.

OH BOY , Keithy here we go again !! You are obviously having a real bad time of life lately !! Like l said there has to be mutual respect between a husband and a wife. My husband hates shopping therefore l usually go by myself. I am reasonably flexible in the bedroom so no real complaints there !! My husband still cheated on me !! So you tell me WHY !!! If you dare !!!!!!!! I honestly believe if men and women were more open and honest with each other, there would be no reason to answer questions like this one. There would be no CHEATING !! OK next question please !!!!!!!

Well as a man who almost has been divorced because of selfishness, especially when it came to sex. I'll tell you this. If you want your wife to respect you, show her some respect. Think of her and her feelings before your own. Put her at the top of your list of priorities. Compliment her EVERY DAY, tell her what you appriciate about her. Don't expect her to do things that you want sexually, that's being selfish on your part. Respect her wishes, if she's not comfortable doing something with you sexually, don't expect her to do it. When she says no, she means NO!!! Because the more you fight with her about it, the more she won't be willing to do it or have sex with you at all. As far as shopping goes, my wife and I both hate shopping, but I like going to the mall or to stores with her because it's quality time with her.

I personally think you need to grow up and quit expecting your wife to be your servant and her doing everything you want. A marriage is a partnership, 50/50, give and take, and it sounds like your only wanting to take, take, take without giving her some respect.

Another thing, if there is something that you want to try, sit down and talk with her about it. Because when you fight, neither of you is going to be willing to listen. BUT most importantly, respect her. Show her that you love her, telling her will mean nothing if you don't show it.

I am not an American but I know how cold they can be. I was married to an American and guys are guys, you know, if we don't give them what they want, they go and look for someone else but this is only partly right. I guess it is 50/50. I am from South American and we are raised to please our man and even pleasing him in every way we are now separated because he was abusive and it was the opposite. I was more open than he was and we are now apart, not because of sex, it was getting better and better, but because he did not respect me, so, it goes two ways..............but I agree that certain women just go on a sex strike and would go and sleep in separate bedrooms or even beds to PUNISH their husband, how wrong this is....if they only knew that this is like poison to a relationship they wouldn't do that, for sure.

Good luck.

That is not the only reason men cheat, they can have a beautiful, loving, wife/girlfriend that gives them the world. And some still cheat. This is the same for some women. They can have a man who gives them everything they desire and they still cheat. So, I think of it this way. If that is who they are they are going to do it. If that is not who they are they are not going to do it. It has more to do with who they are as individuals and less to do with their partners. God bless****

I think men should be respectful of their wife's bodies. If your wife does not want to do something then it is not the end of the world and you have to go and find someone that will. I mean grow-up there are worse problems than a wife not letting her husband do her up the ***.

I know my hubby hates shopping, I just make it come with me to get on his nerves. Besides shopping is nothing compared to someone trying to go up your butt. Next time find a better analogy.