is it to much to ask?

I don't think it's too much to ask. My husband and I always let each other know where we are going and when we'll be back and throw in a few calls just to say hi. His buddies give him a hard time because they think I demand this which I don't (I guess they don't think it fits in with the image an army guy should have!) In fact even when my husband was in Iraq he'd keep up with my work schedule and if I worked an evening shift he'd wait in horribly long lines to call and make sure me and the kids made it home ok. To me it sounds like you are just making sure she's ok...not that you're trying to keep tabs on her.

Well, are you going overboard with the phone calls? Are you calling too many times in a day? A person does have to have a certain degree of independence HOWEVER since she knows how you feel she should perhaps address the situation even if you guys come to a good compromise.

Do you trust her? If you think you can trust her then I don't see why she'd need to report in to you so often. One call a day? Would that be alright with you? If so then tell her that.

You know.. relationships require communication. If you can't discuss this with her and come up with an agreement then you have bigger problems than this.

Being away can be hard on a relationship. You are stuck to your truck and your whole mind and spirit is focused on being home and with people you love. People at home have stuff to do and places to go, they don't have the time to miss you the way you miss them. You have to let go a bit, if something happens they'll call you. Your just setting yourself up for dissappointment when you ask them to call you to make sure they made it home o.k., there's nothing you can do so whats the point. I hate it when my wife asks me to call and let her know I made it o.k. One more thing I have to remember and if I forget or get held up there's alot a shovelin to do. (If I'm dead I'll call ya ) Peace of mind for you can equal a pain in the #@$ for them. You either trust them or you don't. Spend more time sending flowers and sweet nothings rather then setting requirements and expectations.

Good luck

Love is unconditional devotion. It appears that you really love this lady that your with. So her reaction to what you do, rather positive or inconsiderate, should never divert you from showing her love. However, there are some questions that you need to ask. Is the distance and time away causing her to want to be with someone else? and her not complying with what you asked her to do is her way of placing distance between the two of you!

i have a b/f that works on the towboat. We know exactly what you are going thru. the next time you come in talk with her. if she becomes defensive, that will answer your questions on why she don't call you as often as you like. We try to talk at least twice a day depending on his signal. Just try to be patient. she might have alot going on right now.

No it is certainly not too much to ask !! In my opinion she should show you the same respect you show her !! I honestly think you two have a lot of issues to discuss. Especially with love, honesty, trust and mutual respect or should l say her lack of !!!Best of luck to you !!

ok its ok to to have that communication im on your side 100% but think about it if you call her about 10 times a day to tell her "hey im going to the bathroom" then yeah the relationship will get boring because you talk every minute. its wrong that your girl did not call you and its that late thats wrong but you shouldnt be calling every second maybe shes tired le ther know talk to her

you want my honest opinoin. maybe she doesn't want to call you all the time, she probably thinks your treating her like a child., its controling, its nice that you want to know if she made it home safe. but she doesn't have to do it all the time, ease up on it. dont try being her parent. be her boyfriend and not a controlling one. you will get further with that. good luck.

No thats not too much too expect, if anything she should be happy too call you. Many times i've experienced this with people where if they talk like i expect too much and if i expected any less it'd be nothing which is what they tend too do.

just stop what you are doing to her now even those telling her what things you are doing or where you've been things like that..lets see how she reacts, if she will not be angry..maybe she needs a little bit freedom...