How do make it work?

you have answered your own question.you say you do what ever he wants?well honey that's the problem.You are suppose to be who you are and the differences in the two of you is what makes the relationship interesting.If you go along with everything he wants and do everything that he wants to do,then that's like him being by himself.You mustn't assimilate yourself into him,he doesn't want to be in love with himself.you are suppose to be some one else and that some one else is who he was initially attracted to.men don't want clones or robots, a little adversity and difference is good.

Stop going along with everything he wants and start enjoying life. Do some of the things you enjoy doing, with or without him. Get out more. Got to the movies, shopping, or to a museum. Invite him to come along and if won't, go anyway.

You've become an old pair of shoes that have been pushed back in the closet. Turn yourself into a new pair of shoes. Start smiling more, enjoying life and being a happier person. Talk to people when you're out and about. Interact with other family members and your kids (if you have children). Join a health club. Be creative and find your way out of the closet!

It seems he think everything is fine because he gets what he wants, you say you just go along with anything. May-be it's time you kicked up a stink about what you don't like in your marriage. Men don't see things like women, us women are very emotional about a lot of things we need to connect more etc. Try writing him a letter and tell him everything you don't feel is right, let him know how much you love him and you want it to work but at the moment this isn't working for you. All you can do is to try!!

are you ready to take risk?

what you need to do with him is, both of you take a time of and go to a quite isolate place, no TV, tivo or any of that, only bring one cell phone, do not pick up any phone unless emergency, and don't plan what you guys going to do over there, no book or anything , just TWO of you no one else, food, equipment to stay warm and safe.

just go

don't not let him bring fishing , hunting gear or any gear whatever he likes to do outdoor.

the purpose is to isolate the two of you and see how thing go, is human nature has to talk, and when he doesn't have work or co worker or friend to talk to like he used to in his daily life , he'll talk to you and you'll do the same and both of you will start talking again.

but there is a catch this is like gambling, it might turn out great , but in quick second it'll turn the other way around, so please think carefully , are you really need to take this risk to fix the flaw in your relationship

oh ya to avoid higher risk just go 3 days but you dare yourself go for more than 5 days.

if you guys still don't communicate after the more than 5 days trip , maybe you ought to ask him the ultimate question "are you still love me like the time when you want to propose me?" and tell him don't answer right away just think about it first .

hope it work well is 14 years good one .

best of luck

You both have to be willing to make it work. You seem to be missing the romance you once had. Men seem to be more complacent then women in some instances.

It sounds like he still loves you, he has just gotten comfortable in the relationship. Instead of talking to him about it, why don't you try to create suttle romantic situations. For instance, when you are alone sometime, surprise him with his favorite meal.

Just some suggestions and I wish you luck. It is important to make it work if you can.

I am sorry babe , first accpet the facts and truth, take it easy and lead ur life u have to go miles to go may be one day he will understand ur real love and honesty. nothing happens if u tear , look at the lovely sky , those slient sea u have enjoy the life .

set a goal in ur life and get it just think impossible nothing in this world. only make ur mind and be positive.

rather i would say he is not right to understand u and ur love why do u tear it 's okey come on life is calling u take it up and live it up

Think about ways to stimulate yourself where you can involve him too just as ask him to take you on a vacation. You can make it a family vacation so you don't really feel so lonely and have kids or other family members to talk too. Ask him to propose to you and ask your hand in marriage. Do silly things. It really helps. Sometimes, our attitude just gets so stuck up that we feel lonely and ignored always, I know it has happened to me too. Changing your attitude and finding ways to make yourself happier is something that only you can do. Don't tell him how you feel. You have already done that without any positive results. Tell him what specifically to do whenever he is free. Tell him to buy me a gift, think of something romantic to say to me, give me a surprise, specific actions like that. Many times, men just can't understand what to do and even when it feels silly to demand things like that, it's okay and will make both of you feel lighter and happier.

Man he reminds me of somebody, Well You've got to talk, i mean even if you have to rattle on and he is not listening. Keep talking to keep yourself from feeling like you do. Talk hard and fast and long and all the time.

Don't give him the chance to make the decisions let him know your in this marriage as well, and you matter!

Don't put up with it, start saying 'if you don't i will go and stay with my mum and i won't come back until you do'

If you still love him, you can make it work. It just takes a little imagination and hard work. If you want to rekindle your true love, do something about it. Start going out on dates with him again. Make a nice candle light dinner and romantic music. Spice up your sex life. Give him romantic letters or gifts. Let him know how you feel.

Just because he won't go to counseling doesn't mean that it is off limits for you.....you are the one being "torn up inside" so get some help in dealing with your feelings.....you go...it will help you figure out what you want to do with the rest of your life...good luck