Have you ever felt like you just weren't good enough??

I think that what you are going through is completely normal and there are plenty of people that deal with similar situations in their everyday lives (myself included). You shouldn't beat yourself up for not having everything 'perfect' because that is just completely impossible to do. I mean look at the amount of things you do everyday and with everything going on and your placing so much emphasis on making everyone else happy, it is no wonder that you are feeling this way because quite honestly you are wearing yourself out. I would suggest a few things to you that might help. One, have your kids help out and do more chores (not sure of their ages but this will help them learn to be responsible as well as take a little bit of the work load off of you) and second, you need to stop worrying about everyone else and start making yourself happy by maybe doing one thing everyday that can help you unwind and feel relaxed and grounded. It doesn't have to be anything big but even if you have a few minutes to yourself each day it might be very beneficial to you. May I ask where your husband comes into this? You are worrying about the kids not behaving well, how much does he help with disciplining them? How is it your fault that you guys have no 'us' time, when there are two of you that make up the relationship? I think you should talk to your husband about this and tell him how you feel. He is supposed to be on your team and there to love and support you through both good times and bad and it is apparent that you could use a little help with chores, etc so that you aren't feeling so run down and upset. If you could, maybe you could get a babysitter and go away for the weekend or even the night with him so you guys have some time together. With work, children, and all of the other responsibilities and obligations that go into a family, finding that 'us' time can be quite difficult but even if it's only your going to a dinner or movie (or anything where it is just you two

only) just once a week or every two weeks, etc. it would be considerably beneficial to you being closer. I would even suggest if you could, going away on your own for the day to a spa or to somewhere you love and have your husband watch the kids or if possible, go away for the weekend and allow yourself some pampering. I think that like most mother's you feel very responsible and obligated for making sure that everyone else is happy and I think that you need to do that for yourself as well. Your family should be willing to help you out considering how much you do to make their lives better and please do not think for one minute that there is anything wrong with you for feeling the way that you do. I am recently divorced with a 3 year old daughter, I work full-time and go to school part-time so I know all too well how everything can just pile up and how it can appear that there is no way out. You just have to try and step outside of the routine and the role of mother and caretaker and nurture your own character and rediscover who you are on that level. Maybe even taking up a hobby or something that is just for you would be beneficial. I think that it is really respectable how much you care about others and how hard you want to be a good wife, mother, etc and please others but the fact of the matter is it seems like you are being taken for granted & it is about time you stopped worrying so much about things like laundry (don't worry the world won't end if it piles up :P ) and start placing more effort on trying to take some time out to do things that will please yourself. Good luck and take care:)

Seriously you might want to find a second opinion from a doctor. Maybe sit down and talk to your husband about what's going on in your head and see if he can think of a solution. Look at all the positives that you have going on in your life instead of all the negatives. I think you should definitely sit down and write a list of all the good and I think you will see that you have more good than bad. Therapy only works sometimes. Medicines only mask the symptoms and if you don't need medicine it can actually do you more harm. Hope you have a Better New Year!

Yes, at times.. eveything seems to suck big time. But I am on medication & it makes things look better now.. I don't know, I think it helps in a certain degree and the rest is up to us to decide whats important and what's makes us happy. The medication can help just this much only.... have a word with some friends who are willing to listen and get this negative feeling out. It won't help becos at times we take it out on our family who are innocent

incredibly there are situations that i'm thinking. It would not help while human beings many times set the bar detrimental intense. yet I understand that the call (if there is one) of who is going to "heaven" and who would not relies upon the motives of the movements. If I donate to charity to get popularity or help human beings in simple terms while somebody is observing, there is not any actual love in touch. yet why get wrapped up interior the factor. stay your real looking you're assisting others and the rest will look after itself.

Yes.. I have... Take control and get some stuff done. Make the kids mind you, They will respect you more if you are doing what you are supposed to be doing. Now they are thinking... she doesn't do anything, why should we.. get a grip.Get moving, you can win!!

I'm NOT a doctor, but I'm going to diagnose your problem for you. You ARE depressed. Get some help for depression, and you'll be able to solve the problems you described. I personally think you need to find another doctor.....yours is wrong in her diagnosis. Good Luck!!

How old are your kids?

Even at 3-5 yrs old they can do more to help keep the house tidy. Only allow them to have toys in certain areas of your home. Then before they take out more toys they must put away the ones they stopped playing with.

That clears up 50% of you running around picking up after them.

When they change clothes make them put them in a laundry basket (or box) and you must show them how to fold their pj's after using them each night. Don't dwell on how good they fold them, dwell on having them put them away each morning when they change clothes.

By all means don't re-fold the clothes they folded! This won't give them any satisfaction... Or give them any pride on learning how to do it on their own. (Help doesn't need to be perfect ya know...)

STRUCTURE is what they need, and it's what will help you by them helping create it - for you.

Are they over 5-yrs old? Same thing.

Don't have any gray areas with them in how they are supposed to be responsible for themselves. Stop holding yourself accountable for doing things they can easily do.

Are they teenagers? Put the clamp on them and if they don't do what's asked of them, then give them two firm warnings and the third one you go into their rooms and trash it! Pull out all their drawers and toss all their clothes out (on hangers included) and give them 24 hours to clean it up or they don't get any meals.

Will they argue and balk at your behavior? Yes. So what? Drive the ship instead of being pulled down by it on a daily basis.

When you create rules and make your children follow them instead of caving in to them - then you'll have peace of mind.

Will it drive you nuts? Yes, for a while, but once they learn you aren't going to stand for them not listening to you... They'll not only learn to heed your word, but you'll learn to not keep being taken for granted.

Before you just jump right in to start going through these motions... Take a day or two of storing up your energy level because you're going to need it.

As you go through these actions... Stop holding yourself responsible or feeling like you're letting your kids down.

You'll feel that way, but the future actions on you and your kids will be based on YOU setting the goals and them following it.

In other words, stop giving in and get busier by leading by example. Lead them, don't follow them around.

Anyway, start with yor kids getting on track first because they're the easiest to deal with (have faith and trust me) then deal with other issues. Knocking out 50% of your troubles is a HUGE place to start. Work on the rest as you gain more time to deal with them.

I have. I just try to accept who I am and do the best I can.

sell the house

sell the car

sell the kids

move on