Should i divorce my husband?

First of all, your son is beautiful and I think you know it's time to do something for yourself and for him. It is not your responsibility to clean up your husband's messes. He seems like he has gotten pretty used to it and has no sense of responsibility or respect for you. You would be better off without him. Sometimes love isn't enough. Maybe the shock of you leaving him for a better life will get his butt in gear and eventually you two will be able to be together again, but until he has made some serious changes, you are better off without him.

As long as you keep bailing him out and cleaning up his messes, he will continue to screw up and use you. Dump that chump! You and your son deserve so much better! Trust me, you can and will find someone that will be responsible, treat you like a Queen, and your son like a Prince. I was married to an alcoholic who was verbally and physically abusive. We have a son together, who is now 11. When my son was 5 years old, I decided I'd had enough and told him I wanted a divorce. I had no job (I had been a stay-at-home mom for 5 years), no current, up -to-date job skills, and no money. I took my son and moved in with my mom (thank God for her!). Within 18 months, I had a permanent, full time job with benefits, my own car, afterschool daycare for my son, and I had saved up enough money for my son and me to get a place of our own. I won't kid you, it wasn't easy, but if I can do it, I know that with what all you have been through, that you can do it too. That was six years ago. Two and 1/2 years ago I got remarried to a wonderful guy. He is responsible and works 40+ hours a week as a certified mechanic and smog tech. If we need extra money, he has no problem doing side jobs, working on other people's cars. He treats me with utmost respect, and treats my son as if he were his own son. Because of him and his love and support, I was able to quit my job last year and start my own medical transcription business where I work from home. Only you can decide whether or not you should divorce your husband, but believe me when I say that you don't have to settle for this lifestyle; you and your son deserve so much more, and somewhere out there is a man who will love you and give you the kind of life that you deserve. I know, because of found just such a man, and believe me, I thank God each and every day that I am no longer married to my ex and that I now have a wonderful husband in my life. Take care of yourself and your son - he's depending on you. Best of luck to you.

Wow. You must really have wanted to rescue this loser. All those red flags before you married, and you still married him? Did you believe you could change him? That marriage would magically change him?

You can't change him. You can't save him. He showed you what kind of person he was before you married, and he's still that person today. You make it possible for him to continue the bad behavior because you have shown him you'll clean up his messes. Just like his momma.

So, do you want a husband or an adult child to take care of? Right now you have an adult baby along with your infant. You'll need to decide if you can live with both babies. So long as you enable him to screw up, he will continue to do it.

Your choice.

This guy just wants a mother to take care of him. Get a lawyer and get out before he puts you in the poor house . Get your name off of everything. Your lawyer can advise you so you will not be responsible for anything ffrom this day forward. You will probably owe half of what he has out there now. So don't wait run. This is not love. He is using you and your son. Good luck and God bless.

I am so sorry for you. I know exactly what you are going thru. unfortunately it will not get better unless you get out. Get out, you do not have to divorce him right away. See if he really loves you and straightens up. If he does and you actually see it (not just him promising) with your own eyes. Then take him back on a trial basis. Honey, I have had 2 men like that and nothing changes them...you can not believe their words only actions... You are worth so much more than that!!! You need a man not a child in a man's body so promise yourself like I have myself...No more jerks that want me to take care of them. You and your baby deserve better...good luck and get tuff!

Are you severe or trolling? in the journey that your husband changed into inebriated he probable idea you've been another lady. he's telling you (questioning in his drunken state that you're some random unusual lady) about you! it really is why he used your call, he meant you! He changed into telling you that you're the most impressive element that ever surpassed off to him and that he loves you a lot. there is not any different spouse called Marylin, only one, you. guess he has no recollection at each and each and every of the subsequent day. relax :)

Well I think you answered your own question based upon all the things you said about him. Do your sanity and your child justice by getting out of the situation if you can. He seems to have a problem that he just cant solve and he will eventually wind up in jail. You can do better for yourself and child.

hmm.. you should think about it for sometime.. you love him alright, but the way things he's messing up with you seem unreasonable for you to be with him anymore. although you have given help before, and this time the man is still irresponsible.. the problem there is that he's not open at all, he's got hidden agendas and who knows he might be cheating on you.. i don't have the right to say or give you advice 'cause this thing is really personal and you should seek advice to somebody close to you.

you may get comments and suggestion here, but i don't think this is the right place for your to seek advice. my comments anyhow is that your husband is irresponsible and doesn't seem to be worth trusting. i know love is still there.. yeah everybody is sweet for the first few years..

think carefully and you should really talk.

good luck and bless you.

I understand love, but you can't love blindly. If your husband wants your love he has to earn it with actions and responsibility. And you are right, you child will be affected by his actions, its only a matter of time.

I don't know how many chances you've given him, but if you really love him, give him one more chance. Give him your demands and establish benchmarks and dates he needs to do stuff.

If he doesn't comply, then he, not you has made the decision to end the marriage. If he doesn't clean up his act, your life and your child's life will be miserable. Do you want that?

Leave him. You won't love him half as much when you're homeless because he's a loser. Look in the crystal ball - in 10 years you'll regret not having done it sooner.