To those who are happily married for 10 years ~ i have 2 questions for u!?

1) Love

2) Trust

3) Communication

4) Understanding

5) Sex

6) WE Both work at our marriage

7) He's My best Friend

Humour : My Hubby loves to make me laugh, He's the funniest man i know!!

Attending Religious Services: Is very important to us..We attend twice a month (i work every other sunday)

My wife and I have been married for just over 35 years, and I'm sure at least ten of them have been happy, so I guess I qualify here.

Respect is the foundation for any successful relationship, be it marriage or any other.

Humility is the innoculation against breakup. Whether husband or wife, recognize that at times you will have the choice of being married or being right. A part of humility is being able to laugh at yourself and with your spouse.

Suspend judgment. Assume your spouse is well-intentioned until you have incontrovertible proof to the contrary. And if you do have the proof, try to keep your mouth shut. Nearly every writer before me has mentioned communication. None has yet noted the need for occasional silence.

Agreement on what is going to be important. What's on the list is less significant than that you agree on the list.

Keep the marriage down to two people. I'm not talking about affairs here. I'm talking about bringing your mother, your brother, your gambling addiction or some other identity into the marriage. Princess Diana once noted that a marriage is hard enough to make work when there are just two people in it.

Love is over-rated. I do not question the importance of love, and I want to state categorically that my wife and I love one another and only one another wholeheartedly. It's not enough. The ties that bind a successful marriage are many, and love is only one of them.

I have not ranked these attributes. I cannot rank order whether the brain or the blood supply or the heart is more important to life. Without all of them, there is no life.

Second question:

If there is shared humor the marriage has a better-than-even chance of survival. Humor alone cannot make a marriage; a marriage without humor is not really made.

Attending religious services ranks high on the list, but not as high as having a theistic belief. Once one accepts that there is something more important than one's self - in this case one's God - it becomes far easier to accept that perhaps the marriage is more important than one's self, and that at times the spouse will be more important than the me.

The secrets to a happy marriage.

1. Most importantly...Communication

2. Be a good listener, if your spouse is trying to to tell you something that they feel is important, even if you don't, listen to them.

3. Try and have a date night once a week without the kids, because I feel that it's important for a husband and wife to date, to have that time together where they can enjoy time alone without the kids. And NEVER EVER expect the evening to end with sex. If it happens, great, if not don't make a fuss about it.

4. NEVER go to bed angry.

5. Never fight in front of the kids.

6. Tell your spouse that you appriciate them and WHAT you appriciate about them.

7. Treat your spouse with respect, and don't put them down when they make a suggestion that you think is stupid.

8. A healthy sex life is important in a marriage, but it should NEVER take importance over anything else in the marriage.

9. Compliment your spouse all the time. Make them feel good about themselves.

10. Put your spouse and their feelings and needs before your own. There is nothing more damaging to a relationship than selfishness I believe.

To your second question, Humor and attending church I find VERY important also. I can honestly say that if it were not for my wife and I believing in God and putting him at the center of our marriage we wouldn't be married today. Also you have to have humor in your marriage, otherwise your gonna be a grouch all the time, and nobody wants to be with a grouch.

My wife and I have been married for 10 years, we were high school sweethearts.

My husband and I have been married 24 years. I would attribute the longevity of it to the fact that I am a giver and he is a taker and we both know it. We have 5 children, 7 grandkids. We still go out like we did when we were young, we have date night all the time. We laugh, which is so important in a relationship. We have been through some horrible times, I had cancer, he had 2 heart attacks, we lost a child when he was 14, parents died. You name it we have been through it! But through out all the ups and downs of life, we never did argue much. We laugh about it cause nobody believes us when they ask how many times we fight...we dont, if something comes up we handle it with straight forward conversation. We were very active in church when the kids were younger, I can not honestly say that was in any way what held us together, however, our deep faith in God has gotten us through all types of trials. We know he is there, we love him and with our hand in his we will make it another 24, maybe, if not it has been a good gig!

1. Keep your sense of humor.

2. Keep your appearance up.

3. Keep telling your spouse you appreciate what they do for you

4. Be spontaneous, dont be afraid to "mess up your makeup"

5. Keep your home in order

6. Keep your husband fed well

7. It is the little things that mean a lot to eachother.

8. Give each other space, do not be too needy or clingy.

9. Share the financial part of your relationship

10. Keep your breathe kissing fresh at all times!!!

11. Never go to bed angry

12. Do not let your children play one against the other ever

13. Do not let in-laws and out-laws get in your business.

14. Do not ever let anyone live with you..ever! Cheaper and better on your relationship to rent someone a cheap apartment!

15. Dont lie to each other, when you do it takes another and another to cover up, then you dont know fact from fiction.

16. Surprise each other for no reason, other than you love each other, send flowers to their office, take them out to lunch, or dinner and a movie for just because!

17. Take lots of pictures and go through them often, and remember "when".....that is great.

18. Never clean house on the weekend both days, plan ahead, there is nothing worse than to wake up on a weekend and hear a darn vaccumm cleaner going 90 miles an hour!

19. Let each spouse have their separate friends, even if you dont care for them much.

20. Never ever forget an anniversary!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

My secrets to a happy marriage aren't really all that secret, but I'll be happy to share them.

1)God comes first

2) Communication

3) Willingness to work hard at your marriage

4)Have a date night once a week

5) Humor to laugh at yourself and your spouse

6) Don't go to bed angry

7)Be a good listener

8)Be appriciative of your spouse and tell them what you appricate about them.

9) Complement your partner often.

10) Sexual Relationships- never put this as a # 1 other wise, your marriage won't last

We've been married 10 yrs and I'm thankful for every year.

God Bless!

I have been married for ten years!! We are still happy

1. faith in God!!--We look as marriage as a privilege and a ministry. We never say divorce because it is not a option!! We love each other w/out trying to change each other.

2. Acceptance- we accept each others and not try to change each other.

3. Sex-- We beleive that lots of sex and meeting each other needs in the bed is very important to a happy marriage!! SEX AND LOTS OF IT!!

4.Amity- we remember that we are first friends and our frinedship is very important

5. Romance-- We still date each other!! Which means we still have very separate lives, goals and acheivements. But we always make time to forget we are married and become a young couple in pursuit of each other

We laugh at each other and we don't take oursleves serious!! We love to have fun and be goofy!! We attend church every sunday together!! My husband is a minsiter!! When we tell people that they don't belive it!! We are the most soicalable, romantic and carefree beleivers you would ever see!!!

Hope this help!

Married 30 years. 1. COMPLETE TRUST 2. Keep yourselves in good shape for each other 3. commincation is essential and sometimes you HAVE TO REMIND THE SPOUSE as I have to 4.Humor, things will and do go wrong, 5. there needs to be a compromise if one person wants more sex than the other 6. Do SOMETHING together, couples tend to each do their own thing after many years of marriage 7. RESPECT...I can only wish my spouse had the same respect for me as when we were dating ex. opening car doors, no cursing , no hitting walls when pissed off...why these changes happen are unkown to me .

1) honesty

2)empathy

3)communication

4)trust

5)acceptance

Nothing works without a sense of humor. I would put that near the top of the list.

We attend religious services sporatically,buy, always together.

Married 35 years.

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38 years

Hello, my husband and I have been together for 21 years this past November. We have had our up and downs as all marriages do..But we have a Great relationship.We respect each other......He likes to hunt and I dont so he goes with a man friend and hunts and I stay home and rest or go out to eat with a friend.everyone needs some time away from their spouse and some time to hangs with their friend's.. We laugh and joke alot with each other, almost always, he is a funny guy......... although I like to go to church I can not get him there so,I go alone.. he will come whenever he deicide's that it is right for him.. We dont act our age we swim, hunt.play poker with other anything we can do together... good luck