Is this considered betrayal?

I'm a guy and I definitely think it's wrong for him to do this.I think it is a betrayal of your trust in him because he told you he wouldn't talk to her anymore. While it is probably nothing more than keeping in touch, he is playing a dangerous game by chatting with other women. It's wrong for a married man to put himself in a situation like that because it could lead to problems and end up going further than intended. Tell him that it hurts you and to please promise you that he will put a stop to it. Then watch and see if he does. If he continues, knowing that it bothers you, then you have a deeper problem. Good luck, I hope things work out for you.

It's cheating, plain and simple. It's so wrong! You have every right to feel hurt, betrayed, and not able to trust his sorry behind! There are only two ways to handle this and both include giving him an ultimatum - either it's you or the other woman. But, you're going to have to be prepared to walk away from the marriage if he chooses the other woman. He's going to make you feel like it's your fault and there's nothing but innocent chatting going on between him and this woman. He WANTS it to be ok, but he knows it's not. Like most men, he wants his cake and eat it too. You are his wife and he OWES it to you to be faithful to only you. I can guarantee you that at some point this relationship with the other woman will become physical (if it isn't already) and he will start meeting her in person for sex. Cheating is cheating whether it's online, over the phone, or in person. If you have any respect for yourself and you want any peace for your future, you need to confront him and tell him exactly how you feel about all of this. If he truly loves you then he'll end his relationship with the other woman. If he refuses to end the relationship, then he doesn't love you and you deserve better. If you can't trust your husband, what do you really have in terms of a relationship with him anyway? Think what your future will be like knowing that he's involved with other women - you sitting at home crying, upset, and wondering what he's doing and who he's doing it with. In this day and age, you also need to give serious consideration to what kind of disease he could bring home to you - you could die from his screwing around with other women. YOU DESERVE BETTER THAN THIS! You need to think about your best interests in all of this because your husband sure isn't thinking about you or your feelings.

I'm more confuse on why you felt the need to marry a man, who told another woman he would leave you even before you married?? but to answer your question YES IS DEAD WRONG, WHAT HE IS DOING... is telling you he will cheat or leave you in a minute if this woman takes him...I would handle this as follow trow that darn computer to the trash and demand respect from your husband or tell him if you cherish the conversation with this woman so much, that you have to constanly hurt me and degrade me just to talk to her...then my dear husband is time for you to freeking go... kick his *** to the curve and find your self a less confuse man.. because at the end he will end up leaving you for that other and if you get rid of him, before he gets rid of you at least you can rest assure that he cant claim your dignity and your pride... if you hold on to those you will make it.. and someday you will find your self living your life without regrets. Do the right thing for you.. DEMAND RESPECT... AND IF HE REFUSE TO GIVE IT TO YOU, THEN TAKE IT BY LEAVING HIM... he is not worth your misery let his sorry asss go... good luck.

it most certainly is a betrayal, if he is still having some kind of relationship with her, via the Internet or whatever, there is a good chance it could start up again. if he sees nothing wrong, than he has no morals, and really doesn't know right from wrong. who wants to be in a marriage where your not the one and only, being married should give us certain rights and we should be able to expect an exclusive with that person, if not than it can never work out. i would give him an ultimatum, if he doesn't want to than u may have to leave him, as it is much better to be alone than to live unhappily with someone who is cheating on u.

Yes i feel this is betrayal and dishonesty big time!!!! If he has not kept his promise to you then what do you think??? He has broken his promise so I am wondering what else he is doing to you and to this marriage. There is something definitley wrong with this and he is lying to you if he says there is nothing wrong with it... He is just making excuses to you to keep talking to and with her on the internet.... He is selfish if he cannot understand why this upsets you so badly. You have every right to be hurt and if this continues and he has no regards for how this makes you feel then you need to contact her and ask her what they talk about and if he is cheating with her.... You may be surprised with what she has to say back to you. If he is cheating then leave and seperate from him. This is how I would handle it anyways.

Yes, in my opinion it is a form of infedelity. What he told her BEFORE you and him got married is one thing. That's kind of a dead issue at this point. But if he is talking to her and other women online, especially if you told him you didn't want him doing that, then there's something up.

Yes, I would be hurt and I would let him know about it. I would confront him and give him an ultimatum. Do not let him continue to walk over you like a doormat.

Yes! You have every right to feel the way you do.Any married woman would feel this way.And it is a type infidelity.He is lusting for someone else and that is a sin.Even if it is only in words..

My hubby says to ask him, how would it make "Him" feel if the tables were turned and it was "You" who was talking to your ex and other men on the Internet?

I think you know the answer to this already...a resounding YES!! It sounds as if he's immature and probably even has self esteem issues and is insensitive to your feelings regarding this matter. How would he feel is the tables were turned?? Why did he bother promising you he would no longer speak with her? It would be very difficult to trust someone who blatantly disrespects and lies to you. Hopefully for your marriage he can redeem himself and turn this around so that you are able to trust him again.

If it hurts you, then it's not right. I think it's a way for him to "fantasize" personally, but still have you. Who knows if he'll take it farther. I am in my second marriage, where promises are NOTHING. If his lips are moving, I'm learning, he's most likely lying. I think in this case, it IS clearly wrong.

its not actually betrayal, but it is a trust issue and a road paved with broken promises that seem to hurt just as much as betrayal would

don't like people who break promises, i never do, but i only make a few promises