would you take offense to this?

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My fiance got a new job at a company that does award shows for celebs.  Theres this show in a few months & he gets to go and bring someone.  Here is the conversation.

Me:  Oh can I come?
Him:  Well... I'm not taking you if you don't lose some wait.
Me:  (thinking he's joking) Yea right.
HIm:  If you don't go to the gym, i'm not taking you....

I'm 5' 9" and 200 pounds. I know my big butt needs to go the gym.  But as my fiance, I think that he should accept me for how I am.  It makes me feel like he's embarrased or ashamed to bring me out.  He's never said anything like that before when its just friends and fam.  I think its really shallow & insulting that he said that if its just because there are celebs.  

He's apologized but it was one of those "whatever" kind of sorrys.  I told him he really hurt my feelings and he got mad & said i'm overreacting.

I'm really pissed off &my feelings are hurt.  I don't think i'm overreacting.  We are not talking now.

What do u think?

DemoDicky · Accepted Answer

maybe that is his way of letting you know you DO need to get to the gym.  If you both recognize the fact that your overweight, it sounds like this is his effort to make it known to you that you need to slim down.  I wouldnt look at it like an insult unless he starts throwing it in your face all the time.  If this is the first time he has come out and mentioned it to you, then be glad that he has the balls to say something about it to you instead of living a miserable life of just accepting it.  While his method may seem as though it was the wrong way of stating it...it sounds as though it was a situation that was timed for the purpose of letting you know.  If i were you, id hit the f-ing gym hard core and dump some tonnage that way you could feel good about how you look and he could feel great about showing off your accomplishments in public.

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