Two weeks ago we were buying a house together, now he just wants to be friends!?

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I got dumped by my man a week ago having been seeing him for 7 months. He's had bit of a tough time since I've been with him in that he's had a close family member die, his mum had a big operation, I've had a big operation which had complications & now have M.E. (Chronic Fatigue Syndrom) on top of his high pressure job where he's not been meeting targets over the past couple of months. Do you think it's a case of it's all got too much for him & he needs time out to get himself sorted? He's always been the one pushing for commitment before & says I'm the only girl he's ever been in love with. I am now very confused but know I'm madly in love with him. He's now saying he wants to be friends but I want to be back to where we were.  Does he just need time to deal with everything? Or should I try to move on? HELP!!

fungirl · Accepted Answer

It does sound like he's dealing with alot.  Maybe think about giving him some space and just let him know you're there for him.  When some guys get overwhelmed they run.  So, just let him get himself together and see where things go.  Don't pressure him, it will make him more distant.

just_D · Answer

I think, the whole "let's be friends" thing is just to make the break-up thing easy on you. I don't think he really means it. But if you want to find out for sure, I suggest you sit him down and have a resiouse talk. Just be honest and ask him why he is doing what he is doing. It's better to know the truth than just assuming the wrong thing. 

Best of luck...

anna · Answer

Honey, you rushed your fences by starting to buy a house etc. He's not ready for a big commitment. Therefore you got "let's just be friends"--and if you're over 12 you have to know that is a classic breakup line, followed closely by "it's not you, it's me." It is him--he's not ready and he feels pressured. Find someone new before he hits you with the closer: "It just wasn't meant to be."

Anonymous · Answer

I think you got into this realtionship much too soon.  Buying a house with someone you've only known for 7 months?  So who is stuck with paying the mortgage now?

? · Answer

It would not sound like both of you're quite waiting for a relationship even as commonly you're concerned about the quantity of sex you at the instantaneous are not getting and the shortcoming of self belief you're showing with comparing your self to different skinny women human beings. the load isn't the area. the area is that he'd quite spend time searching each weekend quite than be with you and also you would quite have sex with him quite than BE with him. back off and funky off. you want to stumble on your option of what you want to do inclusive of your existence quite than watch for him to come back round. What are YOU doing with a even as?

Anonymous · Answer

be supportive, be there for him when he needs you most but dont add to his worries and problems. by going on at him. Man pride n all hes probably thinking he doesn't need you at this moment in time but eventually will need to talk to you i'm sure good luck! stick with him if you can...

Jemmax · Answer

stay away from this guy
you are bascially inviting him to keep hurting you all over again!
if he cant decide what he really wants, dont let him mess you around
stay strong!

Anonymous · Answer

Be a friend  !! wait it out !!

hotclaws · Answer

Move on.When it's dead,it's dead.

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Two weeks ago we were buying a house together, now he just wants to be friends!?

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