Dealing with my friend is my main problem….?

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Well, I’ve got a best friend 10 years ago and until now we are friends but now things changed our friendship wasn’t much like before it changed.
I will firstly tell you what our friendship like 10 years was ago:-

- when people see us together they think that we are twins because she was about my height and my weight and that what made me feel that she is my sister, so we started sharing our daily problems and secrets and what is going on in her house. I use also to tell her the same… whatever happens to me.

- she used to stay with me every now and then.

- in our town, there is two kinds of school one are public school (which are free to study)and private schools (which has fees to pay). We were in private schools and she decided to go to public but I put the idea in her mind that leaving private school will be hard for you and I kept telling her that until she agreed to stay and go ahead studying in private.

- when her parents got divorced I heeled her pain and I kept supporting her until she got more wiser and understood it and face it.

- when we get our reports, its hard to see your grades low as you spend a lot of effort in studing. So once they gave us the reports, so she started crying because she failed in Science… no one cared about her but I did. I usually was better than her and I study more than her.

- After a long day of school… we come back from school and call each other and talk talk talk…. We use to be very good friends and talkative.

Ahhhhh… now its different totally different.. everytime I see her in school my heart get hurted from her doings and I just quit.

Now its different and the way she thinks about me is different. She thinks I’m  her babysitter or servant or her doctor or what so ever… but the main thing is that our relation changed from a friends to a master and a servant!!
Its hurts me how she does treat me after a long time of love and care to each other, she is attracted to other friends. She keeps ignoring me and when she needs help from me which her friends can answer she asks me and go have fun with her new friends.

Now can you explain to me what is friendship? Is what all I did these years result is leaving me alone? did I did something wrong which made her leave like this? Did I do something which makes her ignore me? Am I her friend or just someone who is asked such questions and left out? Don’t I have the right to be her best friend?why don’t she thank for all these years by giving me attention.??

prabhakar_ace · Accepted Answer

1. no one can explain what is friendship, they can only feel it.

Anonymous · Answer

"Friends" come and "friends" go. 

"True Friends" are few and far between.

I am not going to say that Public School changer her, the school had nothing to do with it. The people she met and decided to let influence her may have had a large role in her change.

It is another challenge in you're life. It is up to you to let it make you wiser, stronger and more prepared for the future.

Don't let any challenge stop you dead in you're tracks! That is not what they are meant to do.

If she is a true friend it will come back to you. In the meantime you need to move forward with you're life and make the best of it.

illlhsm · Answer

Awww... I feel for you... you are obviously hurting a lot, I am in a similar situation.. Well, you obviously have been doing her a lot of FAVORS.. not really helping. She takes all this caring for granted and now she has the nerve to bully and ignore you. Ppl are really mean,, just grab a coupla new friends and the reaction on her face?? Priceless.

sparkleythings_4you · Answer

People change as they get older, I had a friend for over 20 years and now we never speak, your lives have just taken different paths, that's all, and it's normal.

Tonya W · Answer

If you have one true friend in your entire lifetime consider yourself BLESSED!!! People change and move on. Evidently she sees you in a different light now that she has other friends. You have to move on!!!! Good Luck!!

Aya · Answer

it's not your fault..you can find another best friend if you can..your friend just don't realize on how precious you are to her yet..if she still love you to be her best friend,she won't do this to you..you must enjoy your life,not think the sadness in your heart..best friends just don't turn their back to their best friends..let her feel bad for what she did to you and make her realize that she has lost the most precious person in the world..just ignore her and live life to its fullest..
take care..

cuddles_gb · Answer

Relationships change.  You can either sit her down and talk to her about your concerns, and try and get a resolution, or you can "dump" her as a friend.  It's a pretty simple choice.

jabberwocky · Answer

it's called being taken for granted.
time is the only medicine here.
you have grown apart, now you should stay apart.
she doesn't respect you anymore.
sorry.

godfrey n · Answer

If shes a girl like you just forget everything and get involved with. I can be your best friend forever. Welcome in my heart whenever you are ready email me at gugagodfrey@yahoo.com

Bisous

Anonymous · Answer

crikey yr frabjulous i expect you have a dynamite pair of juggers...

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