I wish he would call more often...am I being too needy?

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I've been seeing this guy for a month and for the most part, everything is fine. We see one another about 2-3 times a week, and usually he'll at least text me every day to say hello. The relationship started slowly...he didn't even try to kiss me until the 5th date! There has been some progression in the last week or so...last weekend he brought me to his sister's house for a party and his son was with us also. It was the first time I met him or any of his family. He also invited me to go skiing with him and his son this weekend, which would lead me to believe that he's thinking of me as his girlfriend...even though we haven't discussed it. The thing is, I feel that although we're being cautious with one another and not rushing into anything, I wish he would call me once a day. The fact that he doesn't sometimes makes me wonder whether or not he's really interested in me. Am I being unrealistic? Should I just tell him how I feel?

Frenzy · Accepted Answer

Talk to him about it.  He may not be aware that you want him to check in daily.  Everyone has their preferences.  He may believe that he is just giving you space, and possibly even a little fearful of coming off as "needy" himself.

espee · Answer

I think U r heading too fast while this guy seems to be slow but very affirmative of what he's had in his mind. Wait for the rod to be hot and then bang it, it would save u of extra energy. U r not at all being unrealistic its quite natural for any person to be that way. But why not give him some more time. 
Set the bird free if it comes back to u it was urs
if it didnt it never was made for u.

shadycaliber · Answer

That's kind of funny, a guy tries and is too agressive and you call him a stalker, too shy and you wonder if he cares.  Too nice, he's borring you need more of a challenge.  If he has'nt had much experience with women, or had his heart broken in the past he may take it slow.  Even somtimes the guys just not emotionaly available in the way you want.  Your being too needy, just relax and let things progress as he feels comfortable.  When you put up unreal expectations the chances are they are not going to be fufilled.

SAK · Answer

At least he text's you on a day to day basis. He is taking it gradually. Wait and see how it goes after the ski trip. Then, you could casually mention to him that you would like to have him feel free to call you more often. Nice to hear his voice when he calls. Take care.

Talena · Answer

In truth I know excatally how you are feeling.  Perhaps you are putting off the wrong message (I know I did and I seriously regret it).

I say talk to him honestly, we all have different needs, he may have a very good reason for not doing such, you never know.

Good luck.

â?¥â?ªâ?«Karenâ?«â?ªâ? · Answer

I personally wouldn't tell him how you feel.  If he's involving you in plans with his family and/or son, then he wants to see you again.  If you act needy, you'll push him away.  Some guys take forever to introduce you to their families and/or children.  Be happy that he's thinking ahead by making plans.  Just chill and NEVER let 'em see ya sweat it!  :)

Anonymous · Answer

You're being needy. In the big picture, what's a phone call? What difference would it make?

Anonymous · Answer

you should tell him now
before it gets to far in ?

you dont have to sound needy
just tell him
and obviously you have a reason
the worst thing he could say no
then ask why?
and it will be a stupid reason like
i dont have time or something (no time why are you going out?)

good luck!

Lady C · Answer

Just take it easy, don't be so expecting of him. Although you may want to take it further, he may just be a slow mover. Give him time, he may surprise you!

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