my 12 year old daughter is pregnant?

how could you have an abortion when you seemed so excited about being pregnant in your previous questions also your 12 year was very excited I don't understand how you could have went through with it even though your 12 year old is pregnant also does your 12 year old know that she is risking her life in giving birth she is just a baby there is no need in getting her one of those dolls to play with it still wouldn't be the same as a real one I think that maybe you should put the baby up for adoption then beat your 12 year old's butt.

Wow! That is really young to start. Just shows how far the world has taken things to the extreme. I am sorry to hear that you want her to get an abortion, life is a gift from God, even though we don't see it that way sometimes. If she can't handle being a mother at that young age, then maybe consider adoption. There are lots of loving couples out there dying to have a child of their own, but can't due to medical reasons, so adoption could be the right answer. I know she had to have sex the night she went to the movies 5 months ago and came home at midnight, it is the only answer that makes sense. But can sh love the child like a child needs love? Will she get up at 10:00, 12:00, 2:00 every night and still go to school? Just something to think about.

Wow!!! I hope you didn't opt for an abortion just because your daughter is pregnant. If I were you, I would've made her have an abortion. Twelve is way too young to have a baby. I had my first one when I was Eighteen and I struggled through it at that age which is a lot more mature than twelve. Telling her how it is, is a very good idea, but on the other hand, it is extremely difficult to know exactly what it is like until you are there. She may not fully understand exactly what it is like. What happens if she has a baby with colic? Do you think she will be able to cope with that? I think that no matter what you say, she won't know what it is really like until the baby gets here. I do believe that the novelty will wear off and you will end up raising this baby yourself. For the first while, she will be ga-ga over the baby because lets face it, babies are cute. Wait until she is deprived of sleep and is changing dirty diapers. How responsible of a Mother is she going to be? I'm sure you will be forking over the money to buy diapers etc. I think you are terrific for being so supportive, but be careful. Do not let your daughter dump the baby on you so she can still be a kid. She needs to learn to stand on her own two feet. If she believes she is old enough to be having sex in the first place, then she should have the majority of the responsibility with raising the baby. You can be there to answer questions and give her moral support, but she should do all the work. Good Luck!!!!

I am speechless, I know this must be the hardest thing for you to deal with right now. I have a 6 year old daughter and I can't imagine how I would feel if she came home to me at that age and said she was pregnant. I would be upset at her but there isn't much you can do except be there for her and help her out all you can.

The two of you can work on everything together.

All you can do is let her know that it isn't easy being a mom and having a baby at her age is going to be so hard. She really needs to think this through before it's to late to do anything about it.

I'm not for abortion at all but in this case I might consider it being she is so YOUNG.

Good Luck and make sure you let her know that you love her no matter what she may decide to do.

I first and foremost want to stress how important it is for her to get medical care, for health and the health of the baby. I do not advocate abortion, but I am also not going to judge you for it, as that is not my place. I do hope that you speak to a family counselor and get some professional help with this situation. You, as a single mother of three, know how hard it is as an adult, much less being a single mother at 12. I hope you and your daughter realize that at this point, it is advisable for the baby to be placed up for adoption and given the chance at a better life than what you and your daughter can provide. Use the time and effort you would use raising her baby as time and effort to teach her and guide her. I am sure you are a great mother, and your daughter will be too, when the time is right. Her first lesson as a mother should be that we are not allowed to be selfish and the best interest of our children takes precedence over all else. I wish you the best of luck.

Honestly, I think it should have been the other way around, at 12 she's still in middle school right? Now she's 4 months, and at that age, being a child they don't understand the responsibilities of being a mother. At the age of 24 she will have a 12 yr old. Please try to make her understand what she has done is wrong, but it's not going to be her baby, that's your baby. Some kids can do it, but its very hard to stay focused because after the baby comes, she's going to think that she is grown. She will continue to have sex, and thinks it's okay. Because she has a baby already, and just like she sneaked around and had the first one. She won't care about having another one. So just be very careful. And try keeping her close under your belt for now one. Make her realize that she just made it harder for herself. Her education and being a mother is all she's has time for. With that in mind she'll stay focused and she'll be okay...

Well, it only takes once and it was probably the one and only time she came home late.

Unlike a few people here, I refuse to jump to the conclusion that you're a bad mother or irresponsible because of this situation. The truth is sometimes, parents can do ALL the right things and it still doesn't keep their children from making the wrong decisions. Peer pressure (especially from a guy they really like) will sometime weigh more heavily with them than doing what they know is right.

You're daughter might think this is great now - but the truth is, she'll learn soon enough that midnight (and three a.m.) feedings are not fun and when you have school or work to go to - they're even less so! One day, probably soon, she's going to wish she would've waited - unfortunately she won't be able to undo what's been done. Encourage her to take full responsibility for her actions - especially a month or two after the baby gets here and she's exhausted. Teach her what she needs to know to be a great mom and support her. That's what she needs right now.

I am truly sorry to hear that As a Mother we all expect a lot of our kids and when they fail we become monsters Your daughter had a lot of time to have sexual intercourse The fact is she had too much freedom especially the extended curfew All kids should be home and in bed by 8 or 8:30 the latest. We should talk to our kids and when I say talk to I do not mean talking down and shouting I mean being open and honest have your child share his or her thoughts with you. Its never too late to start what you can do now is support her in anyway you can. It is going to be hard but it is a part of life. Let the young man and his parents assist as well. You can seek the advice of a counsellor in your area. Get pamphlets on teen pregnancy. It may also be good if you could get family and or pastoral counselling to heal the wounds. You may be thinking that you dont trust her but you will eventually gain what was lost. Time heals all wounds but we should never forget that we are humans and we err. There are mothers out there who have gone through this and you are not the first. At the end of the day protecting your relationship with your daughter is all that matters and remember you will be a grandmother soon and that baby does need the love of family.

12 Yr Old Pregnant

She is excited because she has nooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo clue on what motherhood is. I saw an interesting thing on a talk show once. They took all these 12,13 and 14 year olds that were trying to get pregnant on purpose and had them try and take care of a real baby for a week. After they were done none wanted a baby. look there is no telling what a kid will and will not do no matter how much you try and be a good parent. I seen kids in screwed up homes grow up to be upstanding professionals and vice versa. You have to give her options. Abortion at 16 weeks is out of the question. Adoption should really be considered. Since you will be the one taking care of the baby not her.

I think standing behind her in her desicion is a good idea. But you didnt set a good example for her by having an abortion yourself. That is only showing her that if things get tough you can just get rid of your problem. I also dont know much about being a mother of a 12 year old but I am a mother of a 6, 4, and 2 yr old with twins on the way and believe you me, when I say that I WOULD have NEVER EVER EVER let any one of that age out until all hours of the night. The first time I ever stayed out late was on prom night and I was 18. I would have taken her and picked her up myself if she was my daughter. Now is not the time to critisize what done is done I guess its Gods will to have this baby born, but I think if I were you I would get custody of the baby until she is completely ready to take on the responsiblity of having a baby. I think that you should watch a movie called "Sixteen and Pregnant" Its with Kirstin Dunst. Good Luck and God bless you your daughter and your new baby!!!