To Domestic Violence Victims &Concerned: What else is needed to effectively fight Domestic Violence?

I don't think DV rates are "rising", I think there is just more awareness nowdays. Most non-profits are helpful (ie- womens shelters, etc). I believe the court system is slow in passing regulations that protect the victims. There are women with children that are victims, but the ex-husband/father receives visitation rights which puts the mother and children right back into the situation they left. Even if someone has police reports, it usually doesn't affect the father's right to see the child/ren. The court system needs to start taking DV seriously.

The victims have been brainwashed into believing they are worthless, many times fear begets common sense. When they finally do something, they are put into institutional shelters, forced to talk about their problems before they are ready. They can't smoke, drink, or sleep in a comfortable bed. They have a curfew etc. Hello...That confirms, no matter where they go they are imprisoned and to stupid to make responsible decisions for themselves. At least with their abuser, they have some freedom when he's not around, they can stay up late and can even have sex and everything. If they do get out on their own, they are so alone and many times with children who may not understand the problem, more guilt and insanity for mom. Maybe the gov could have optional foster care with visiting anytime, until their lives can get back on track. Job leads or courses if necessary to enable them to work at home or not, resources that show that other women did survive. Free classes beneficial to their self worth and to ensure them that some people really do care and counselling when they are ready and with someone they trust. Stricter policies for abusers regardless how much money they have or their status in life. Perhaps a percentage comes off their support payments to continue top quality resources for the abused. If they do reconcile ,family counselling would be mandatory and another incident would result in jail time. Screening to be done on the victim to confirm that the resources are valid to her case. I have witnessed some women who have used the shelters for the wrong reasons and that time and space could have gone to someone who truly needed it.

Yes, the government and the people they govern are missing "something". It's called "do as I say, not what I do". Violence against women is depicted in all media, particularly TV and Movies, and let's not forget good ole' pornography. Get real - as long as it's promoted as acceptable behavior (and by putting it on TV, movies, mags, etc. that is promoting it), it will never stop. People need to get real instead of kidding themselves that what is allowed in the media today does not effect people's beliefs and behaviors. People are numb to violence, what's another domestic? It's COMMON. That's what our viewers (particularly young people) think and why wouldn't they? It's everywhere. Women aren't people. They are sex objects so why wouldn't they be treated as less than people in their relationships with men?

well i am victim and i lived with the abuse from my husband for four years i had no idea about women shelters also the ones i knew about were homeless shelters and i was oh no i dont want to go there that's bad i also felt like what would i do for money what if he finds and at times police just gave up after they have been called more than once i think when we are in that environment that the government or cops should take us out even if we dont want it cause we are just not stable but i am to say i been free of him for almost two years

There will always be violence in affairs of the heart, relationships, and in general.

The key to avoid being a victim is to recognize the warning signs and do something about it.