I am uneasy with his looks!?

If you give him a chance he will become as attractive as his personality is.As for you being ashamed to introduce him to your friends, who is the ugly person now???If you have true friends they will like him for making you happy and for being the nice guy he is if they dont then they arent real freinds.Give him a go at the end of the day it will be just you and him so go for broke let yourself be happy.

First, you shouldn't be dating if you are feeling desperate to date. Why do you want to date? Is it because you feel alone? You should be friends first and don't rush into anything. Go slow and take one day at a time.

If you feel ashamed of how he looks, then you are not dating for the right reasons. Looks are not everything. Who cares what others think when they meet him anyway, it should matter more about what you really think inside. You should focus on his good qualities and not the "bad" things or the things you consider "bad". If you focus on those, you shouldn't be dating him. Do you consider him a geek?

When you are with someone, you should be supportive and you should focus on the good qualities of the person you are with. That brings out the good in them. What color are his eyes? Are they pretty in color? Find something physically that you do like. You say he is a gentleman and has a good sense of humor and a good person. Give him a chance. Don't rush into anything. Start off as friends. Tell him you just got out of a relationship and you want to start off as friends and see where it leads, but please give him a real chance. You may be missing out on something you really wanted in a real relationship. Do you have similar interests? Similar goals? Similar beliefs? Religious beliefs? Don't let someone's looks let you miss out on something you might regret later. Give him a chance to be your friend first.

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Let me ask you an honest question. Let's say that you meet someone who is the most attractive man you have ever seen, and he has the personality you just described. You fall in love and get married. One week after your wedding, he's involved in an accident that leaves him horribly disfigured. Would you still have the same problem? Would you still be able to introduce him as your wonderful husband, or would you be emberassed that you fell in love with him?

Please understand that I don't mean this in a harsh way. But if you really like the guy, what do his looks have to do with it? This isn't a problem with his looks, but a challenge of your character. If you like the guy, then you need to stand up and be proud of it. If you can't stand up, then you at least need to do him the courtesy of breaking it off because that isn't fair to him. Believe me, as a guy, nothing rips a man's heart out more than to have a woman (especially one he loves) treat him with contempt.

I really think you need to work past the issue, but if you can't, at least respect him enough to not lead him on.

If your only objection to this guy is his looks, then remember there are ways of improving anyone's looks nowadays by make over. Still it's very early for you to suggest such a thing. For now enjoy this guy, his sense of humour and his great personality. If the relationship takes on to a higher level then you can suggest (very subtly) to improve his looks. Sometime all it takes is a new haircut and some trendy clothes.

If you have to use the words "uneasy" and "ashamed" it's not meant to be regardless of how he makes up in other categories. Hold out for someone that is better all around. Being single for 5 months is not the end of the world.

Don't settle for less that what you want. There is somebody out there for everyone, and you need to go for the guy you like, not the guy your friends like. You are the one spending time with him...not them. Dating is just a game to learn about another person...not a LIFE LONG commitment! So if you do feel you want to get to know him better, then date him! If you think you can get better, then dont.

Ok. You sound like a nice person so I say leave him alone. You aren't ready for him yet. You should never be ashamed of who you are with. My husband is hot but treats me like crap. I would take an unattractive person that treats me good any day. Is it things he can works on like pimples, weight, the way he walks. Maybe you can give him a few tips. Good Luck

You should be happy in a relationship, not embarrassed. It's funny what feeling desperate can do to someone. Even though it might hurt being lonely, I think you should wait for someone you like on all levels, looks, personality etc. But in the end, you have the right to choose who you want, just don't cut yourself short.

Oh wow!! im in the exact same situation! Okay so you gotta put it this way, your gonna be with him not your friends. They shouldnt care about his looks as long as he treats you right. You want a man not a trophy. I look for the cute guys that end up having all these hoochies stirring stuff up. Go for him....he sounds like he's worth it. Once you let it the uneasy thing go hes gonna be gorgeous to you.

Look, I know people think its "shalllow" but if you are not "attracted" to him physically then it isn't ever going to work. I get so mad when people say you are being shallow. I am a strong believer in chemistry and everyone has different likes and dislikes. What may attract you may disgust someone else. Just keep him as a friend and who cares what your friends think...if they are your friend, they will accept him.