My wife says she is happily married, but wants to experience a third partner in are sex life. Please help.?

My husband and I have discussed the same thing playfully a couple of times. It is a woman's fantasy to see her man with another woman (at least for me). It is kind of dominating to see him enjoy himself, but still want you after using her. But with that being said, it is supposed to be ONLY A FANTASY! It's is great to talk openly to each other, but to actually bring someone into a relationship is only going to cause problems and hurt feelings later. And in my opinion it is more stimulating to have my husband fantasies with me and then tell me that he would not want anyone else. Play all you like with your wife but actually taking the step towards adding another person should be definately no.

If you love your wife and you are happy with your relationship then you shouldn't do it. Threesomes and sharing/swinging is never healthy for a relationship. Anyone that has had a healthy relationship before and after adding a partner to the equation is more than likely a sex addict and has other issues already. Take advice from Dr. Drew he never condones adding a partner to a relationship because bottom line is it just doesn't work. If the experience is all you want and the relationship means nothing more than that then you should go for it and have fun.

But in your case I would have a conversation with your wife and explain how you feel about it. She should understand but if she keeps pressing the issue I would go ahead and start the relationship counseling with a third party because it could be headed for disaster if she is more concerned about this fantasy than she is about your marriage.

Your wife may just want to experiment, or she may actually be polyamorous.

I am polyamorous. I am very open about my feelings and non-monogamous nature. I always make certain everyone involved is aware and OK before I enter into a relationship (their significant other, if they have one, and my wife). Though sex is a component of these romantic relationships, it's no different than anyone with a girlfriend or wife. They are long term and very loving relationships.

For those who are not monogamous, but not interested in long-term romantic relationships (i.e. sex is the more important aspect) and want to be open and honest with their partner, there is swinging. I"ve never experienced it, so cannot talk about it much.

The both of you should talk a great deal about this. Work through your insecurities about the situation before either of you try anything. Communication is critical. Make certain this is not something she's doing to 'fix' the relationship. This type of relationship is complex and non-trivial, the added complexity of trying to use this to 'fix' something is fraught with danger.

This is something you two need to work out. It can occur when couples want to experiment with other partners but there is a risk of course of attachments occurring with other partners, not to mentions STDs. Then of course beside the issue of sexual experimentation you need to work through the moral issues. Then there is the day after. What seems a good idea at the time can became a burden as things guilt and resentment set in. In short you should be concerned and if you go ahead you both need to work through the whole risks. It is more likely to put a relationship at risk than save it I would have thought.

From time to time, I think women get a little restless. It's not about you or the sex you're having, it's about her feeling interested in something new. However, I don't agree that anything will benefit from this. Suggest maybe some new things in the bedroom that just involve you two. Maybe watch a porn video together, play dress-up, set the stage for something really hot for you both. Worst case scenario, you'll need to find out why she really wants this. But that's only if the other things don't work. Good luck!

you have answered your own question . no !! she loves you she would not want this either . i agree with you . just tell her no. you will not allow her to bring anyone else in to your marriage regardless the sex . cheating is cheating whether with a man or a woman. she is not truly happy if she wants this you need to find out why she wants this and fix that problem .allowing her to do this will only make things worse for you in the long run .

rule of thumb never bring anyone else into your marriage for sex or any other reason it only makes things worse in the long run .

Honestly, if you don't want to do it...dont! There are lots of guys out there who might call you 'crazy' for not wanting a threesome, but you have to be a man and stand up for what you want.

Just think about this...if you're uncomfortable and you agree to it, you probaly won't be able to perform up to par you know? If you agree, she might continute to want to try it. On top of all that, you don't know the std status or past of this other person she wants to bring around who she will probaly have her mouth all over. Be a man! Tell her you don't feel comfortable with it.

Only try what you think you are comfortable with.... You don't seem comfortable wit it. Just tell her. Buy her a dildo and give her some good sex.. maybe she will let the matter go. Spice things up.. be romantic.. sexy.. rough, gentle.. be dirty. cuz it seems like that's what she wants.. make her realize that she don't need to try a woman when she has you.. you are good enough...

Sex with anyone else whether you are there or not is cheating. Tell her that is what you believe and really don't want to do it. See what she says. She might be trying to spice up your life..... take her away on an exotic vacation or role play but tell her how you feel about that.

Some people don't want to do it because there are issues with their marriage or their partner, but that modern freedoms allow us all to experience new things or things that we wouldn't/couldn't have done earlier in out lives...

indulge her... allow her the option... you don't need to watch or join in, just allow her to pursue... for her own sake...