Need help please - who is right - myself or daughter?

Probably her first child, huh. She just wants to feel that she is a good mother and that she is raising her child on her terms. I don't see anything wrong with the child peeing outside. I have 2 boys and they loved to do it outside. In fact, it helped them learn to go potty. Try to respect her wishes and if an emergency arises, is it worth telling her about? She is over reacting to the situation. Try not to be overbearing and let her know that you do respect her choices.

If its her child, you should respect her wishes, if you respect her. By ignoring what she wants, you are basically saying "i'm better than you, what I think is better than what you think, and i have no respect for you."

I mean my mother has let my brother out in a very desperate situation to go in the bushes or something during a long road trip, but not anywhere in public where people walk, like a parking lot (which that is really disgusting).

Just so their are no mor emergencies, make sure to take him to the bathroom before you get into the car, then you won't have to worry about a thing.

Ultimately, the mother is right. Afterall, it is her child. A child is not able to distinguish the difference between an emergency and a non-emergency. He sees that it is ok to pee outside and so that is what sticks in his mind.

You should respect the mothers wishes and possibly teach the child the importance of holding his urine until a proper place could be found.

Personally, I have to agree with your daughter on this one. It is her son, if she doesn't want him to urinate outside even in what you're calling an emergency, it's her call. She may be afraid that by allowing this behavior once, he may decide it's ok to do anywhere.

He will learn control, and can make it to the restroom at the mall, if not, he'll be wet, and maybe tell you he has to use the restroom before it's too late next time.

Well I know this is touchy because it revolves around parenting skills..........but seriously, why can't you get him to a bathroom in time? And if it was at the mall parking lot then shouldn't restrooms be nearby inside??? I understand if there truly is an emergency then there's no choice. But I would be extremely upset knowing that someone would have made my son wait that long where he didn't have the option at privacy to use a real restroom.

While I agree with what you are saying and I have allowed my nephew, when he was small ,do the same thing and saw nothing wrong with it, but she is his Mother and she wants to teach her child the way she thinks is best. I do believe you should respect her wishes and try to do what she asks. I also agree that she should not yell at you and respect you as her mother. I think that she could benefit from the wisdom you have to offer. I don't think that either of you are wrong on this issue except that you don't agree on it . But it is her call.

Your daughter is his mother, so you should respect her wishes with her own child. I doubt you would've been happy if your mother had tried tellingyou what to do with your 2-year old. Also, your grandson should be able to hold his bladder until he gets to a proper restroom. Otherwise, he isn't potty-trained, nor will he learn to use the bathroom at all times.

I think you should not let your grandson urinate outside mabye you should find a near by bathroom or give the kid pull ups when you go out. I think you are both right

Listen to your daughter. Your motive is right, and her excuses are wrong, but it's better to take kids to McDonalds or a copetitor. But feel free to remind her, that you're the Grandma. She really should respect you. Why she thinks it's necessary to yell at you, or to have a yelling match, is a puzzle.

You are right, but you need to understand her point of view. She doesn't want him to develop VERY bad habits. I agree, it is redneck to do that. Plus, with all the child molesters out there, so you really want him "whipping it out" in public? Next time, be proactive so that there is no emergency. You do need to listen to her about HER son. You had your chance with her. Now it is her turn with her son.