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Jenn
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Jenn asked in Family & RelationshipsFamily · 1 decade ago

Need advice on mother who's sister just died. They fought and hadn't spoken in awhile. Mom feels guilty.

This isn't my mom's fault. Her sister has always picked fights with her. Her sister got meaner and nastier when she got sick, before she died. Hoping to find a poem or something to help her find comfort...help her forget the harsh words that were spoken.

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  • 1 decade ago
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    what about the poem FOOTSTEPS that is beautiful x

  • 1 decade ago

    Ouch.

    Deaths are always hardest when there was unfinished business.

    This is not something that can be gotten over with a poem or a few words, but is something she'll have to work through over time.

    Let her talk it out, and listen sympathetically.

    The most you can do is is suggest that she would have had better relations if she could have, and it was unfortunate that her sister didn't want that.

    Grief takes time. Grief with conflict takes longer.

  • 1 decade ago

    Tell your mother that after we die, we go back to the source of our creation, God. When we go, we get to review our lives and see all the choices we made and didn't make and what happened as a result of those choices. Bitterness and hate no longer exist after death. There is just love and with that love, understanding. Her sister knows all this now and is no longer mean and hateful. Her sister just carries love now. Her sister looks down on her with love and understanding. Your mother doesn't need to feel guilty. Tell your mother to close her eyes at night and ask for a message from her sister. Tell you mother to tell your sister that she loves her and misses her.

  • ?
    Lv 4
    4 years ago

    It relies upon. that is as a lot as your sister. in the adventure that your sister tells you that is alright to stay there and she would not opt for any funds then it truly is massive, yet she may opt for her percentage meaning you'll both could promote the residing house or you'll could pay her. The economic gadget is poor at present and that i'm efficient she could opt for her funds. I have a sister and that i could never positioned her out on the streets yet when we both inherited my moms residing house i could opt for my percentage because i could easily opt for it. in case you promote the residing house you'll likely get sufficient funds on your 0.5 to manage to purchase a house or positioned down a down charge for one. yet like I stated, that is all as a lot as your sister.

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  • beamer
    Lv 5
    1 decade ago

    Dear Jenn,

    Your mother shouldn't feel guilty now (her sister wasn't a nice person). She's dead! Tell your mother she should not cry over spilled milk. Good luck and may god bless your mother and her sister (as Jesus died for our sins).

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    Tell your mom to remember all of the good times that she had with her, not the bad. Tell her not to feel guilty that God has it planned that way and it's not her fault that she died.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    your mother needs your support right now... perhaps you could use your own words and write your mother a poem expressing what a wonderful person YOU feel she is?

    feeling gulity isn't necessary -- our families sometimes tend to be our worst nightmares!

    sending hugz.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    I hope you don't feel bad. My Aunt (now "removed" from the fam.) was arguing with my grandfather, and he had a heart attack. My father had just walked in. He died in my father's arms while he was giving him CPR.

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