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I'm so frustrated, what to do...?
Okay, I broke up with this guy after going out with him for about two days and I told him we should go back to being friends. Now, he is giving me the third degree about why I broke up with him. I said it was because I thought we were better off as freinds. He thinks it's because I like another guy...and I do, that's why I broke up with him. I didn't want to lie to him and to myself by being unrealistic about it, so I broke up with him. If I'm in love with someone else, then I have a right to leave the relationship, right? I can't tell him it's because I love another guy because it is his best friend and it would break his heart and possibly ruin their friendship. What should I do? Should I tell him the truth? Though, I really do think we're better off as friends. He just won't leave me alone about it. I tried to let him down easy, but he won't let go. Please, help, I'm so frustrated!!
I have talked to him and I tld him to leave me alone about it. I never set out to hurt him and now I just feel bad. The only reason that I said yes was because I was in the moment and I wasn't thinking. I didn't break it off with him just to be cruel, I did it so that I could spare both our feelings. I wouldn't want to have dragged it out forever because then it would have been so much harder on him if I'd broken up with him a week or more later. I know I did the right thing by breaking it off, he just can't get any closure. I won't tell him about loving his best friend because that would kill him to hear that. I'm sure that his best friend already thinks that I'm a terrible person for breaking it off with my guy. I know it's for the better, though. I wish he could see that...I'm just trying to spare his feelings. He wants me to tell him EXACTLY why I broke up with him, but little does he know, he doesn't want to hear the real reason. Thanks for all your answers, guys.
I'll still like his friend, but I definitely won't make a move on him. That would just be inconsiderate and cruel. Anyways, thanks you guys, I know that I can count on all the people on Yahoo answers. You guys are a great support system. Thank you. I hope everything works out, I just want to just be friends with him again, if possible. If he hates me forever, I'm fine with that, too. The ball's in his court, now.
I would never hurt him on purpose. But, he is being a jerk about it. Just today, one of our mutual friends(he's friends with me and him) told me that he is stalking me. That's soo creepy and I don't know what to do. But the mutual friend said that he would tell him to stop stalking me, since my ex has no idea I know he's stalking me. But, that is so harsh and he is just desperate...
13 Answers
- 1 decade agoFavorite Answer
just tell him the truth. you deserve 2 be with the love of your life. just try and still be best friends with him. i think he'll get over it. if he don't, move on. hope this helps. good luck!
- GumbyLv 41 decade ago
If you don't love him and feel it works then you have a right to break up.
Don't date a guy if you wouldn't marry him though. The relationship wouldn't get anywhere.
That's bad if you want to date an ex-boyfriends best mate. The ex could say bad things to him behind your back. The best mate could date you and do bad things or refuse you in revenge for his friend. You could end up being hurt badly. There's a close bond between them that not even you would come between it. I know you like the best friend and all but you must move on. There are plenty more fish in the sea.
- 1 decade ago
OK what i think you should do is be truthful and say I'm not feeling you in a relationship way but I would like to be friends but that's not all, you have to tell the real reason why you broke up with him because maybe he just need a good real reason why so that's where the tough love come in nobody can just choose who they fall in love with plus he can't be that in love you two only dated for two days tell him to get over it.
- Smarty Pants™Lv 71 decade ago
Maybe he feels lead on. And yes it probably will have an effect on his friendship w/ his best friend. You should tell him because if things work out w/ his friend. He is going to find out anyways. You were smart to break it off before things got too deep. However maybe you made a bad judgement call to go out w/ him in the first place.
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- jesssikahhh_x3Lv 41 decade ago
You do have the right to end the relationship as it involves you. This guy sounds like he's a good friend, but he's desperate so he's trying to cling to you.
You told him all he needs to know, tell him to stop bothering you about it that there arent anyother reasons and if he cant accept that then maybe you cant be friends now.
- 1 decade ago
I wouldn't call it a relationship after only two days of dating.
However you are going to have to tell him the truth at some point . Dating his best friend hes bound to find out.
- SamLv 61 decade ago
no offense...but dude it is his best friend. of course he is going 2 get mad. dont u think ur being a little 2 harsh..first u break up with him after 2 days and tht 2 cuz of his best freind...wht wud u do if he did that to u? put urself in his shoes and think.
- auditor4u2007Lv 51 decade ago
You might as well tell him the truth. After all, when it happens to you, and believe me it will, You'll want to know the truth too, don't you think?
- 1 decade ago
yea u should just tell him the truth because he's just going to keep giving u the "third degree"until you do.
- Anonymous1 decade ago
tell it str8 up, the truth hurts but its worth it
