How do you stop patterns of self defeat and self destructive behavior?

The first thing is already done. Admitting you have a problem is the first step. I understand what you mean, I have a disease called genetic pancreatitis. I am only 27 years old, and there is no cure. I've been told I will have cancer and die at a very early age. I've wanted to give up too, but I've decided not to. I have to much to look forward to. What you need to do is find someone you can trust and talk this over with. They have programs, kinda like narcotics anonymous, but for your problem. They are there to help you. Give it a try, call your local help line. It's in the phone book under local government. Don't be ashamed. There are a lot of people who do the same as you. I wish you the best of luck, keep your head up, and when things are down try and think of happy things. I know that's hard, but it might help. Good luck.

I know it seems like things never change, but keep trying. Little by little, you will start to do things differently, and change your patterns. Don't forget to pat yourself on the back for each little triumph, and don't beat yourself up when you slip back a little.

Good luck!

Try praying to God for guidance. Give your life over to him, he will work every thing out. You'll permanently be on a high, but on him. In the mean time, seek secular help by means of a therapist (Counselor). They will look at these pattens and assist you to stop this behavior.

i agree with the girl above me... bipolar or stronger anti depressants may help.. but i think you REALLY need to get down to the CORE OF THE PROBLEM and solve it that way.. if you dont find inner peace you will not be able to carry out a healthy or happy life. go to your doctor and REALLY open up and try your hardest.

Welcome to life. Everyone has these ups and downs. By embracing them as part of life, by not dramatizing them and involving others with the vagaries of your life, by being rational and realizing that no one really cares about you and your problems will you start to be a self-actualizing, mature adult, who contributes to society instead of being a burden with mental problems. Focus on your work instead of yourself.

Cymbalta..... the new wonder drug of the year. Look into bi polar. That condition may not go well with that type of drug.

Talk to your Dr. about Bi-Polar meds. GL.