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I have been going out with this guy for awhile now; I like him, and I think that he likes me too. He's told me before that he's a pretty shy person. When we say good-bye, he'll hug me/hold me tightly and he's slow to let go. After, we hold hands and talk some more, usually followed by another hug, and more hand holding (this goes on again and again for awhile). Lately, I've noticed that it looks like he wants to kiss me, but he doesn't. Why is it that he won't kiss me? Should I be the one to initiate it, since he's told me before that he's shy? And if so, how/what would be a good way to go about it? I'd appreciate your thoughts!

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  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago
    Favorite Answer

    He might like that you're taking charge, usually shy guys do. If you think he's sending out signals go for it. It's better than always wondering what if.

  • carmen
    Lv 5
    1 decade ago

    is he doing the long look in ur eyes, kinda like hes just about to say something but doesnt? if so he totally wants to kiss u, but like u said he said hes shy...so, if u dont feel weird doing it u could make the first move. the only thing is he might b nervous about how hes acting around u, so cut him some slack if he seems akward at the moment. oh and let him make the next move after that, cuz u dont want some guy that wants to b dominated by his gf...unless of course u do, but thats a different subject entirely ;)

  • 1 decade ago

    Oh my goodness I am in the same exact situation!! Well I am sure that he really does want to kiss you but he just isn't sure if you want it... my boyfriend and I are the same way.. maybe you could like start casually talk about it and maybe before you go you can kiss him instead of the usual hug!!

    Well good luck!!

  • 1 decade ago

    I think that if you sense that he wants to kiss you, you are probably right. He may be really nervous and scared that he might mess up especially if he really likes you and wants to impress you. Next time that you are together and you feel that he wants to kiss you just lean over and kiss him. He will probably think it's hot that you took the initiative, and he won't have to worry about kissing you anymore because you will have already gotten past any awkwardness that there might be. Good luck! :D

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  • 1 decade ago

    I am gonna quote Mike and say "Kiss him first". I know what you are going through, because i am that type of guy :) ... what can I say ? I'll be happy if I'd find a dominating girl, as it is hard for me to be initiative

  • 1 decade ago

    He's afraid you'll turn him down. Maybe it's his first kiss. Some boys are afraid that girls will think they're bad kissers, if it gets around to their friends, their crushed. Be careful how you handle this. You can wait until he's ready, or make the move at a calm time yourself.

  • 1 decade ago

    tricky question!! well, i say go for it because he obviously likes you. However, i was in this case before and I can tell you that I did but he didn't like me being so aggressive.

    We are best friends now and he says he still likes me but our time wasn't right.

    I don't regret it doing it because i dont think he would have done it anyways and this way at least i moved on.

    Good Luck!!

  • Relationships should be an area where you feel comfortable and at home, if he doesn't feel comfortable kissing you, then he's doing it more to justify himself, not so much to embrace you which his what you really want. Comfort comes with time. There's no need to rush things.

  • 1 decade ago

    Just kiss him. He is too shy to do it first.

  • 1 decade ago

    u said it yourself hes shy.he'll kiss u when he really wants too until then just do as usual

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