My girlfriend sometimes can be really cool. Then other times not.?

My fiancee and I are the same way. He likes to talk things over and I need an hour or so to go over the situation in my head and get over it. If he forces me to talk, then I say things out of anger that I don't really mean. I dont think you necessarily have to hold off on getting engaged. Just understand that the two of you deal with things differently. You like to talk right away and she doesn't. Neither of you is right or wrong. Everyone handles things in their own way. The key is in understanding your differences. When you argue, give her space. Don't push the issue. You'll find that things will go back to normal a lot more quickly than you're used to. By forcing her to talk about problems before she's ready, you're actually bringing the drama on yourself, which is the last thing you want to do. Have patience and it will work out.

You are right to hold off a bit. Sounds like you have a positive attitude, she can be negative- definitely irritating! Let her know that you dont plan to live the rest of your life in negative drama, give her space if you think that will help. But ultimately, it must be her decision to change her own attitude from here on out- anything else will just be a short-term fix. Wish you the best!

PS: Stay positive with and when talking to her during this time, so she knows you mean what you say, and to let her know it is safe to come over to the "positive side".

If she is acting like this now, do you honestly think it will improve once you get married? Maybe she is just immature or just likes drama, either way, I would definitely hold up on making any major decisions until you get to know her alot better. Some women believe they live in a soap opera and love to have drama in their lives all the time, just to have something to be mad about. If you don't like drama, and are more of the laid back type, I think you should think long and hard before marrying this girl. Good luck sweetie, I wish the best for you.

Well you definitely will need communication if you are in a marriage. You should talk to her about your concerns of not communicating. Let her know that you are concerned this habit may push you two further apart and that you don't want that. You should never ask someone to marry you before you have talked about and settled those hard pressing issues that just become more apparant in marriage.

If she won't talk to you, give her as much space as she needs. It will give you both time to think about the relationship moving forward. Not trying to be a smartass here but most women are like this anyways.

talk to her. ask her if something bad is on her mind. i always like it when my fiance can sit down and see how i'm feeling. if she gets mad, don't get mad back. be there and ask her if something is really bothing her. also, remind her that you are in this relationship and want to make it as healthy and great as possible so you should both communicate when there are problems. i hope that helps.